Baby Steps Don’t Mean We’re Victorious: Thoughts On Marriage Equality

When I was little, we’d play house under the trees at the back of the school field, and snatches of conversation could be heard over the grass if one walked towards the fort we had made out of grass and branches.“Boys can’t marry boys. And girls can’t marry girls. That’s just not the way it works.”“Well, we’re all girls, and someone has to be the daddy.”“Well, you’ll just have to pretend you’re a boy. We can’t get married unless you pretend.”...more

SCOTUS on Prop. 8: When Did Gays Get Into the Constitution?

Analyses, prognostications and educated guesses abound after Tuesday’s argument before the United States Supreme Court on the merits and legal technicalities of California’s Proposition 8....more
@nickelshrink Precisely why the anti-marriage equality lawyers are having such a hard time ...more

A Straight Girl's Thoughts on Gay Rights

It was October 28, 2009, and the heavens had unleashed the coldest rains I'd ever felt—a miserable drizzle that slowly worked its way through the clothes and skin and deep into the bones. Despite my trendy, patent leather boots, my feet had become soaked. Through the dampened scarf that was wrapped around my ears, I could hear the chants rise above the traffic, "Stop the hate, vote no on Prop 8." I looked around at the soggy signs stating, "Separate is not Equal" and "Love is Love." ...more

Marriage Equality–It is time.

Listen, I’m not sure about the title of this post.  I know that I was just thinking, it is about time I stop being a coward and write the post that has been rattling around in my head for more than a year now.  So, it is not that I believe it is time now, because it is really way past time.The same goes for marriage equality in general.  We are long over due....more

When Love Is Just That

I am seriously kind of sick of the whole matter. I was scrolling through my personal FB page and was confronted with the religious right bashing an "issue", which should not even be an "issue": gay marriage. Let me start to say, I even dislike the term "gay marriage". Marriage is marriage. Period. It should not matter who the parties are, as long as they are consenting adults. It's called tolerance! ...more

Marriage with an Asterisk

My spouse Helen and I are celebrating our 20th anniversary this week. Coincidentally, the U.S. Supreme Court will be hearing two cases on marriage equality at the same time. I’m hoping our happy anniversary vibes will sway them....more

Calling all Lesbian Wedding Vendors, especially in the DC area!

So, my partner and I recently married (last weekend) and I realize now that one thing that I would have liked was to work with lesbian wedding vendors.  Please don't misunderstand, all of our vendors were truly wonderful and none of them batted an eye that we were two women getting married...I would just love to have patronized lesbian wedding vendors and I didn't really know where to start looking for them (I did use sites such as, equallywed, and engayged; however, I found that most listed vendors were gay/lesbian-friendly). I would love to put together a list...more

Wedding DJ: Bialek's Music, Rockville, MD (Review)

There was so much involved in the planning of our wedding.  I really didn't know where to begin.  Never having been to a wedding in DC and never having planned a wedding, I turned to weddingwire, weddingbee, gayweddings, the knot and other such websites to read reviews for DJ's and other vendors.  When I met with the wedding coordinator at the Washington Plaza, she also had recommendations for vendors.  Our wedding coordinator has been in the business for 18 years and for most of that time she has worked with Ray at Bialek's music.  I took that recommendation to hea...more

Keep It Simple

Gen. 17:3-9, Jn 8:541-59--Abram saw beyond the present moment, unlike the people in John--may we see beyond the present moment in our Lenten practices: Fasts and vigils, the study of Scripture, renouncing possessions and everything worldly are not in themselves perfection, as we have said; they are its tools. For perfection is not to be found in them; it is acquired through them....more

Fair and Equal

I am sure this post is going to push some buttons, but I have to go on now and get it out. Yesterday afternoon, I saw some posts that indicated a United Methodist Church in North Carolina announced that they will no longer perform “straight marriages” until there is equality for all....more