One summer when I was about 13 years old, my friend F and I decided to go into a Preppy Store, USA at our local mall. You have to understand a few things before getting too judgmental, here. First off, I lived in a hole in the ground with jack squat to do in the summer. We both came from crazy households, so whenever possible we skedaddled out of the house as fast as we could. I usually worked at my uncle’s pizza shop on weekends, so whenever my friends wanted to hang it, it was on weekdays....more
When I was working as a professional Domme, I got a fair number of requests from men who want to be “sissified”, “forced” into frilly girly undies and makeup and turned into an “objectified slut”. Sissification is one of those things I encounter often, both in the Femdom scene and the AB/DL scene, and while I love the dresses, I wonder about the intention behind this kink. I find it all kinds of problematic on multiple levels.
As a lesbian mom, I'm always on the lookout for children's books and media that are inclusive of same-sex relationships. I was thrilled, therefore, when I discovered two such videos from TED Ed, the educational branch of the organization that puts on the thought-provoking TED Talks. One of them was particularly unexpected....more
Margaret Brandwick-Kearns09:50 – 12 Nov 2012 UTC-7Submitted by: Lt. Joseph Carmichael The following is a transcript of my interview with Margaret Foley Brandwick-Kearns, female, Age 43. Resident of Young America, Michigan. Occupation: UnemployedMs. Brandwick has come in voluntarily to answer questions about a video that Mrs. Robin Okwandi, wife of Romeo Okwandi, PhD student at UP State. Mrs. Okwandi received the video, as well as a note in the mail yesterday. The note and video have been submitted to evidence....more
By now, it was pretty clear that the strange occurrences I was having were real, not coincidence. And that, somehow, they were connected to a) my husband, b) my work, c) Second Life, and d) my grad program....more
Accept me for who I am today, not who I was when I was younger or who you expect me to be. For I can only be what my experiences have made me to be. I have tried to live up to other's expectations and found myself lacking. I can never measure up to something that doesn't exist. Nothing will be good enough when I am competing against someone else's vision. If all I can be is myself than that has to be what the universe wants me to be. I may not know what my future will bring, but it will be where I need to be. ...more
I wrote recently about my six-and-a-half-year old son Zach asking for a dress. I took him and his friend shopping at Target, and it took all of about five minutes for him to choose one. He seemed uninterested in the brightly colored or frilly dresses. I spotted this dress, and he said he liked it, so I bought it for him....more
I hate slotting people into little boxes. It’s one of my biggest pet peeves. Everyone has an identity, but the way they identify may not be their entire identity, and it’s certainly not the most interesting thing about them. I’m also a big believer in acceptance, which means I don’t believe that one facet of a person’s character needs to be made into a big, deal-breaking issue in order for them to be loved and accepted.Like being gay, for instance....more
As the mother of a boy who routinely wears pink pants, sparkly shirts, and sports a pair of cobalt blue gem earrings, the news that a bullied 11-year-old "Brony" boy attempted suicide hit home, and hit home hard. 11-year-old Michael is in intensive care after attempting to commit suicide. Our children are committing suicide because they're not "manly" enough.
I told Zach that I had written a blog post about his friend who likes to wear dresses, and he asked me to read it to him, which I did. A couple of days ago, he said he’d like a dress too. I’ll be honest, a bunch of sphincters inside me noticeably tightened.