Things I wish I'd known about grief

Image: No Kidding in NZ via FlickrI wish, as I was growing up, I had learned these lessons about how to respond to those who are grieving:...more
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What would my obituary look like?

I stumbled upon an article talking about an amazing obituary written by a woman who knew she was dying. Read it yourself and if it doesn't bring tears to your eyes, then I don't know what would....more

Dear Mom: You Gave Me A Voice

How does loss and grief become a blessing?I’ve said before that writing is how I heal. And never is the weight of grief more lifted than when I’m writing letters to my mom....more


Yesterday my 17-year-old son and I washed his car together in our driveway. I sprayed the car with the hose, watched as he scrubbed from top to bottom, then I sprayed again to rinse the soap. Together we dried....more
This really makes me think of someone I love very much. She has pushed everyone out of her life ...more

What if . . . ?

It’s been more than a year and a half since that fire. The house has been completely gone for over a year--nothing remains but a giant “foot print” where the house used to be. We settled with the insurance company, and my husband and I went our separate ways. Two of the kids live with me, the third lived with my oldest son until her marriage last month. My husband bought a mobile home nearer his work, and lives alone. We’ve all settled in and are moving on....more

Places I Used to Know

We went to Half Moon Bay today, to go to the beach. It was a deliciously lazy time, dragging fingers through sand, splashing in  shallow pools.When I was nine, my mother moved to Half Moon Bay, out of spite, according to my father. Every other weekend, he would have to make the hour and a half drive to pick me up from an overnight visitation. The commute was clearly my mother’s way of punishing him. As an adult, looking back, this is darkly hilarious to me. Growing up with this mentality was proof that my parents’ divorce exemplified all human deficits....more

31 Days, 32 Revelations: Knowing When To Move On

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The Advantage Of A Sister

I REALLY wanted my realtor to come over here in the middle of the night and surprise me with a "SOLD" sign in the yard. But she didn't, and that is okay. Because it's done. The only thing left is for the appraiser to come out here and confirm that my house is worth what the buyer is paying for it, which it is....more

The Day the World Ended, Part Two

Before she disconnected the call, I asked the dispatcher her name--Shannon--and thanked her for her help. As I got to the end of my driveway, the truck stopped in front of me and told me, “the smoke is heavy, but you can get out.” That’s all I needed to hear....more

The Day the World Ended, Part One

(August 6, 2013. He had taken the kids down to the beach, where they were to spend a couple days with their grandfather. He was going to come back that evening, as he had to work the next day. Since I didn’t want to be in the house alone with him, I packed my suitcase and spent the night at my son’s house, 10 minutes away.)...more