The Ghost of Christmas Past: memories of Momma once again

I have so much to be grateful for this Christmas. Wow! God has really opened the doors of heaven and showered SO many blessings on me, I just cannot tell it all. I know that. I know I'm blessed. I know that God has been good to me and my family. I'm grateful... so, so grateful. But I still miss my Angel. I have the best Christmas memories. I can remember waking up on Christmas morning, and going to my Momma's room to get my presents. I can remember how bright everything was. The lights were the kind that had movement. They were as bright as neon. ...more

Do You Have Any Children?

When your child has died, sometimes even the most ordinary of circumstances can cause an ache in your heart like no other. Imagine - you're the new wife at coffee morning, the new person in the office, joining a gym or a club, anything in which you would encounter people that you've never met before, but in which you would be required to socialise. My name is Jane, what's yours?Nice to meet you Lisa.Oh you have an interesting accent, where are you from?...more

The Great Gift of Gratitude…when things go wrong

It’s easy to be happy when things are going the way we want them to, isn’t it? When things are going well, finances are good, the kids are in an ‘easy’ phase (what, that happens?) and your relationships all seem to be sailing smoothly your life feels rich and you feel content. But life is not always what we want it to be. Whether it is a big issue or hurt you are dealing with or it is simply the daily grind getting to you, it can be difficult to remain grateful in the midst of stress and troubles....more

Remembering Finley

 Today, I want to share a journal entry I made over at Babycentre while I was pregnant. I had the best of intentions to try and keep a pregnancy journal, but it just never happened. I so wish that I had now. This is the only entry I ever made. ...more

Please Don't Compare Your Grief to Mine

 Did you ever realise this? I never did until Finley died. I think it must be because losing a child is just too horrible to comprehend. Too disturbing to have a single word describe it. ...more

How to Survive Being Alone OR Lonely

I believe most women have experienced these feelings at some point in their life.  For some, more often than others.  Even myself.  You are not alone!  But I understand what you are saying and how you are feeling.  When you are ready to share your life with someone else and want a companion to share it with for whichever goals you have as a relationship, it's very frustrating and upsetting when you cannot find what you want and what you are looking for.  And it seems the MORE you want it, the MORE you can't find it!  And the MORE frustrated and upset you g...more

A Poignant Mother's Story My Review of "The Testament of Mary"

I can't remember the last time I was so affected by an author's words.     It has been a long time since I have been so profoundly moved enough by writer's story that I was brought to tears.  I'm not sure I haveever felt such a strong connection to a protagonist....more

Life by Lisa

So, today I want to tell you about my new blog Life by Lisa ( Since I started Dear Finley, I've really grown to enjoy blogging and have wanted to blog about some of the happier parts of my life, but it didn't seem appropriate to me to share them here. I want Dear Finley to stay a place about Finley, and to be a place where other bereaved mamas and families can come and hopefully find some comfort and understanding in my words....more


They say, ‘ as above so below’, as it is in heaven so it is on earth.   So when people say they are in a black hole they literally are.  And it is exactly the same as a black hole in space except these holes exist inside of us.I have known silence and emptiness.  I have come to the edge of myself, the event horizon so to speak.  This portal into nothingness. A black hole sucks up everything, even the light. It’s where time eats space.  Gravity’s pull is magnified.  ...more

Finley's Story From Other Perspectives - Part Two

 A couple of weeks ago I received another story from a friend who lived out in Naples while we were there. Sharon and Josh moved out with their dog Bamboo (a massive Japanese Akita). We were selected to be their sponsors, and I was pretty excited when I found out they were close in age to  us. ...more