Our journey of One

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances,to choose one’s own way.Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning ...more

Lessons Learned Through Loss

A year ago today my grandmother passed away. Despite the 365 days since her death I still have moments when I forget she is gone. I pick up the phone to call her or look to the mail for her encouraging words and it takes a few seconds for my brain to remind me. It's odd to me how death is so final yet those left behind struggle for months, even years with the loss. Sadly it was only after her passing that I've come to realize what a truly amazing and strong woman she was....more

How to Help Someone Grieve: Casseroles or Kleenex?

Three years ago last month some of our dear friends, Andrea and Tyler Gasser, lost their four month old little boy, Beckett. She went upstairs to her bedroom to wake him up from a nap only to find him unconscious. Days in the pediatric ICU did not revive him. I remember when I received the phone call telling me that they had asked someone to bring them a pair of jammies and a blanket from home so they could wrap him up and hold him one last time before they removed life support and said good-bye. I wept for their family.  My heart still hurts for them.   At the time, I had a 4 week old baby boy and I grieved along with her as I could so easily imagine myself in her situation....more

One Year

One year today.  I lost my daddy.  To cancer.One whole year.How did that happen?  It seems like last week, some days.  Last week.Others?  A million years.  So much can happen in one year....more

Don't Be A Lump

I went to a ladies' conference yesterday. The speaker was a potter, and she illustrated several very simple yet profound truths with her potter's wheel. I'm still thinking about them today, and I shared some of it with my sister last night....more

A post that I feel like I need to write, but I don't really want to read.

I know that I just posted Sunday evening, guys.But so much has happened. Robin Williams killed himself.And I am so sad and so angry about it.Everyone is writing about mental illness awareness and reaching out to people when you feel the darkness and/or the monsters creep up your spine.I know this feeling, most severely depressed people know this feeling.It’s terrifying in its familiarity....more

Taking my Youngest Daughter to College

JANE Yesterday we drove our youngest daughter, Josie, to Virginia to start college.  It was an emotional day for me.  I’m not saying only bad emotions were involved.  It was just an emotional day....more
omg ... my youngest is moving out Tuesday!  I feel your anguish and I can relate to your whole ...more

Loss Lasts Forever

There is a fact about life that we all need to come to terms with at some point. The fact is that we all will lose people that we love. For some they have the unlucky element of losing their whole family at a young age. Others are lucky and don't lose people till they are older and get to have the time with their loved ones others didn't. There are all those in between situations as well. Mine I guess would be considered the in between situations, story of my life really lol....more

Kids say the BEST things

I have two beautiful God daughters that I spend time with on my breaks as a teacher which equates to Spring & Summer breaks. Well, each and everytime they are in my home they ask and talk about my babies. They always ask me about the story of them coming too soon but they assuredly say they are in heaven. These girls are unashamedly brave. The saying "kids say the darndest things" should also included that they say the most honest and touching things too. This 3 yr old and 5 yr old have more courage than most adults....more

Talking with Hummingbirds: 10 Years Without My Mom

My eyes fluttered open at four o’clock in the morning and I found myself waking to the awareness of the brevity of life, my mortality, and the mystery of it all. A slightly uncomfortable feeling washed over me, a sadness. It was then that I remembered that it was the ten year anniversary of my mother’s death, and that realization was breathtaking for me. ...more
Be comforted in the truth that those we loved and loved us are always with us. I experienced the ...more