remembering southern california

Haha - I can relate.  We lived there for about 18 years in various towns - great memories but do ...more

Coping with Grief During the Holidays

The Elizabeth Hospice It is 3 p.m. the Friday before Thanksgiving. You have a sense of the days passing by with nothing to show for your efforts. You have a need to accomplish so much before Thanksgiving Day. You are tired, wish this was not happening and cannot wait for it all to be over. Sound familiar?...more

The Lifespan of Grief

I don't know if raw grief has an endpoint. But surely there must come a time when you can think of a loved one without a lump in your throat? ...more
erinific Thank you so much for your comment and your kind words. (I would have replied earlier ...more

When I Grew Up in About a Minute

November 4, 2013I didn't step out of doors once today, but I'm pretty sure it was a little brisk.Four-Forty-fiveP.M....more

Places To Go, People To See, Things To Do

Keep busy, I have been told many times. Get out and meet people and do things. So I have. Today I went and got fingerprinted, since the fingerprints on file were associated with my husband and therefore destroyed when his file was closed or whatever euphemism you want to call it. Anyway, the gentleman who did it was really nice, and he put some kind of lotion on my fingers to plump up the ridges. Then he gave me this orange stuff to get all the ink off....more

Day of the Dead

It's Dia de los Muertos, November 2ndSo, it's fitting, somehow, that just last Monday my family was in Washington, D.C., to hold a memorial for my father at Arlington Cemetery.I'm the oldest of five, so I probably have the strongest memories of the actual funeral, back in 1984....more

When He Cried...

One of my favorite stories in the Bible is the story about Jesus and Lazarus found in the eleventh chapter of John....more

Ten Years Later: Reflecting on My Father's Death

Have you ever experienced one of those moments when time seems to stand still--a moment in time that changes you.  November 4, 2003 was one of those days for me.  ll I remember it well.  Walking out of my Shakespeare class I bumped into my sister in the hall.  She had just gotten off the phone with my mom, who told her we needed to go home that day.  We planned to be ready to go within the hour.  During the walk back to my dorm, I spoke with my mom, and she told me to come home, and to pack something dressy....more
hopethehappyhugger Thanks for reading!  It's been quite a while since I've thought this hard ...more

I'm sorry... You'll never be able to get pregnant."

No one has ever said that to me. Ever. And if they had, I'm not sure how I would handle it... In the movies there's always a dramatic scene where the doctor is behind his desk and the husband and wife are on the other side holding hands when the doctor brings to life that couple's biggest fear... ...more
i know some cases where such words "you will NEVER be able etc..." have been said to the ...more

Sympathy Card From an Atheist

I have several friends grieving losses lately, and their Facebook pages have lots of supportive statements of prayer, and positive energy, and faith.  These are all things I want to say, but as an atheist, they have no meaning for me. I feel fake sending "positive thoughts your way," and I can't pretend to pray for you. But here are some real words on grief.  They are all I have, I hope they are enough.  Real Words I can't tell you that I will pray for you, because I don't pray. ...more