Seeing the Good, Even Through Loss

When I was young, I was told and I believed that "everything happens for a reason."That is bullshit. Things do not happen for a reason. We assign meaning to things to help make sense of them. And the truth is, there can be good that comes after pretty much everything. If you're a silver linings kind of person.I am. I am the ultimate optimist, guilty of always looking for and seeing the good in people....more

To the Family of Mike Brown, the City of Ferguson and Families Everywhere, We Are Praying for You. Please Stop the Violence

While watching television the other night, my regular program was interrupted with an announcement from the St....more

When Grief and Absence Decorate Your Holiday Table

 My mother made a Thanksgiving feast each year, with enough food to last us through FDR’s entire administration.  Despite the fact that it was always, always just the four of us, we dressed up and sat in the dining room.   We used antique napkin rings, fine china, and crystal glasses.   My parents and brother came to America from Switzerland, and then I was born.  We had no family nearby.  Despite the fact that I was the only American, my mom did Thanksgiving better than Martha Stewart on speed....more

On My Father's Birthday: A Letter To The Man Who Killed Him

Dear Sir,I don't know your name, but you killed my father on June 9, 1973, in Stockton, California. My father was thirty-two years old then; I was ten. If he had lived, he would have been 74 on November 29th....more

Ferguson Grand Jury Decision. half an hour until the grand jury announces if officer Darren Wilson will be charged with murder for the shooting death of unarmed teen Michael Brown. My heart goes out to Michael's family who continue to seek justice for their son....more

My mom stopped by today...

My mom stopped in today.. but she wasn't really here.She left us New Year's Eve, 3 years ago this year.There are days it seems forever, since I have seen her face..then days like today happen and her presence fills this space....more

I'm Jealous of Your Noisy, Messy Days.

                                                     There are a lot of moms and dads on Facebook, posting updates that chronicle their parental struggles- kids misbehaving, making too much noise or mess, fighting with siblings, refusing to get ready for school....more

Being Josh's Mom

My 8 year old son died on July 7, after a 13 day battle with E. coli. This post is adapted from what I read at the celebration of life event we shared with family and friends....more

Here's How You Get Through Heartbreak: Just Do It

 So by their early twenties there's one realization I believe everyone should come to, and that's the inescapable fact that heartbreak is inevitable. It happens....more

Just Before Bed ...

It's time for bed.I missed yesterday's post because I was exhausted.Twenty-four hours with six girl scouts of our own and ten others and loads of walking and I broke 16K steps on my Vivofit on Saturday left me crashing and burning on Sunday and so I didn't post.And I could be sad and mopey about it, and I do feel kind of meh that I missed, but I'm also moving along....more