Ah, aging. If you have hit 40, possibly even your late 30's, then you are familiar with the feeling of dismay that comes when a new sign of aging appears. These signs come in a variety of ways, both physical and mental. Gravity kicks in. You lose your tolerance for Rap music. Hangovers last a minimum of 2 days. Your kids start having theme parties based on the decade you graduated from High School. The list is endless really....more
DISCLAIMER: As much as I will bash my soon to be ex-husband (EX) in my posts, it does take two. I wasn't a gem all of the time either, and I own my participation in the demise of our marriage. I sincerely wish him the best and send him love and light. But he just provides way too much material....more
So you’ve gotten to your first date. Holy hallelujah girlfriend, give yourself a high five! But if you’re like me, immediately after that, you’ll be hyperventilating like a mo fo because what do you do NOW?? What do you say? How do you SAY it? Have “the rules” changed while you were out of the game? Gack!Honestly, my first few first dates were like when I brought Boo home from the hospital then his dad ran out to get something from the store. Suddenly Susan, it was just me and the baby on the couch and I was like: Tf do I do now? I wanted this and here we are and WHAT NOW?...more
Stick and stones may break your bones,
but words will destroy your self esteem ...
They will cut you to the core.
They can strip you of your confidence.
They will play over and over in your heart.
They lay your soul bare.
And yet it is the playground mantra when teased, or bullied ... sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me ...' There really is no truth to those words and yet they have been bandied around since 1862. Sadly, name calling translates way beyond mere name calling as we grow older - although apparently not wiser....more
I may be Snow White, but I have to hand it to Cinderella. When the Universe sent her a fabulous pair of shoes she knew it was a sign to transform her life. Okay, maybe not in the most empowered of ways, but the girl knew not to underestimate the power of a great pair of shoes. It took me a while, but I finally learned that lesson as well....more
Last weekend, I took my son and mother to the nearby outlet mall for a little back-to-school shopping - yes I know it’s ridiculous to think about school in the middle of the summer, welcome to Georgia.My role began as chauffeur, banker and fashion consultant for my 15 year-old son. That was until I dared to question one of his fashion choices and was ceremoniously fired....more
The other night, I dreamt I was back in the Philippines, visiting. I was walking in the same halls I used to walk when I taught in University. There were the usual groups of students seated on the floor, by their professor's door, waiting for consultation hours to begin. It was the same dimly-lit and almost claustrophobic faculty center which I used to call my office building. It was far from being ideal, but it was home to me, and represented a job I loved and truly enjoyed....more
“Why do you go away? So that you can come back. So that you can see the place you came from with new eyes and extra colors. And the people there see you differently, too. Coming back to where you started is not the same as never leaving.” Terry Pratchett...more
First, let me say that I love my son. He has brought more joy to my life than I could ever have imagined.
Good, now that we have that straight, I must confess.
I don’t actually remember all of my son’s firsts. Nor do I have video documentation or an alphabetized library of scrapbooks as proof that my son did indeed take his first step or speak his first word. But, I can promise you that my now 15-year-old son is a walking, talking teen who can string sentences together and walk from place to place all by himself.