Why I’m Scared of Divorce

I just got word that my Uncle Dan and Aunt Tina are splitting after nearly 20 years of marriage. I know statistics say that marriages—yours, mine, the neighbor’s across the street—have about a 50-50 shot of making it. Nothing new here....more

What To Do When Your Husband Walks Out the Door

I was married for 20 plus years when my husband walked out the door leaving me with three teenagers. To say that I was devastated would be an understatement - I was crushed beyond measure. During those first days, weeks, and months, it felt as though I had fallen down a deep abyss of shock, confusion, and sorrow. But I survived, and yes, I have thrived. Over the last five years, I have recreated a life that is filled with laughter, love, friendship, and beauty....more

Small town ties

     My 18 yr old son just ran into his dead beat dad while making a pizza delivery to his house! They haven't seen ea. other in years! I feel so sorry for him. How awkward?! We were together for 10 yrs. Both our mom's kicked us out for dating ea. other. We slept in his car for awhile then we stayed in his Grandparents basement, but they didn't know I was there for almost 2 yrs. b/c he would sneak me in & out. My ex has an older son, who was a yr old when we started dating, & who I consider a son....more

A Mile In My Shoes

It’s fun sometimes for me to look back at old blog posts to read what I was doing and saying a year ago.Like a year ago today I recapped the walk to Fire Island....more

Why I stopped Apologizing to my Kids for Divorcing their Dad.

My happiness vs what I thought would be my kids happiness.  That is the place I was in, while considering leaving my husband. A decision I did not take lightly, an agonizing, heart breaking, painful decision. How could I take my children away from their Dad, how could I break up all they knew as a family. It simply came down to what I truly wanted for my children. Their happiness....more
Great post! I can also relate to the guilt. It's so very painful but in the big picture, the ...more

Travel Your Road .... Find Your Peace!

There is a certain type of beauty in acceptance, an amazing and wonderful feeling that comes over you. It is like beautiful words that touch your heart or a picture you can't get out of your mind. A soft touch that lingers longer than you ever expected it to. That, to me, is the beauty of acceptance. The most wonderful moment you may ever actually have, a truth that isn't seen but fealt....more

5 Steps Toward Healing a Broken Heart

“God pulls us through life by the heart.”  - Martha BeckAs I’ve been building my life coaching practice, I’ve become very clear on who it is I want to serve. The truth is that the people I can help the most are people who are going through something in their lives that I’ve also experienced and come through myself.That’s why I have a special place in my heart for people with a broken heart....more
i agree with your points! broken hearts are such a feeling of loss. in my experience, time is ...more

Good Behavior for 100 please

There was something that my family, close friends and I observed about my sons' behavior over this recent visit that had us all questioning where it could be coming from. It's an observation I made months ago. However, as a mother I realize I can be a little sensitive and I definitely over analyze sometimes. Regarding my son, I watch him close and sometimes notice things no one else would otherwise notice. I continued to monitor him without raising the issue initially....more

The Day I Discovered That I Just Don't Give A Shirt Anymore

Years ago, before the kids came along, back when the ex and I were young-ish and married-ish and could take wonderful, spontaneous vacations, an old ski buddy of his called him up and told him he'd gotten a screaming good deal on a weekend ski package to Vail, Colorado.I don't ski....more