It's Goin' Down, I'm Yellin' Tinder

Have you heard of Tinder? It's a dating app that uses your Facebook profile and matches you with people based on your geographic/age preferences, mutual friends and interests. It takes all of 5 minutes to be up and running, then you anonymously like or pass on people by swiping left no/right yes. If you have both swiped right it results in a "match" and the app opens a text chat between you. In actuality it is a game, and when you hit on a match you have the option to stop and text your new match or "Keep Playing". I can handle playing. Dating, not so much....more

Disturbing Behavior

DISCLAIMER: As much as I will bash my soon to be ex-husband (EX) in my posts, it does take two. I wasn't a gem all of the time either, and I own my participation in the demise of our marriage. I sincerely wish him the best and send him love and light. But he just provides way too much material....more

I Finally Stopped Apologizing to My Kids for Divorcing Their Dad

My happiness vs. what I thought would be my kids happiness...   That is the place I was in, while considering leaving my husband. A decision I did not take lightly, an agonizing, heart breaking, painful decision. How could I take my children away from their Dad, how could I break up all they knew as a family. It simply came down to what I truly wanted for my children. Their happiness....more
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Summer

It's nearly August....more

How Do You Handle Celebrations After Your Divorce?

 The spring and summer months often bring about many events and reasons to celebrate.Most people enjoy these gatherings but if you are a part of the divorced and co-parenting world, celebrations equal stress.How do you handle joint events?Do you include everyone at one party?Do you split the holidays up?Do you hold separate celebrations?...more

Why I’m Scared of Divorce

I just got word that my Uncle Dan and Aunt Tina are splitting after nearly 20 years of marriage. I know statistics say that marriages—yours, mine, the neighbor’s across the street—have about a 50-50 shot of making it. Nothing new here....more
Hi, Jeana...and thank you! First and foremost, kudos to you for your positive energy and ...more

What To Do When Your Husband Walks Out the Door

I was married for 20 plus years when my husband walked out the door leaving me with three teenagers. To say that I was devastated would be an understatement - I was crushed beyond measure. During those first days, weeks, and months, it felt as though I had fallen down a deep abyss of shock, confusion, and sorrow. But I survived, and yes, I have thrived. Over the last five years, I have recreated a life that is filled with laughter, love, friendship, and beauty....more

Small town ties

     My 18 yr old son just ran into his dead beat dad while making a pizza delivery to his house! They haven't seen ea. other in years! I feel so sorry for him. How awkward?! We were together for 10 yrs. Both our mom's kicked us out for dating ea. other. We slept in his car for awhile then we stayed in his Grandparents basement, but they didn't know I was there for almost 2 yrs. b/c he would sneak me in & out. My ex has an older son, who was a yr old when we started dating, & who I consider a son....more

A Mile In My Shoes

It’s fun sometimes for me to look back at old blog posts to read what I was doing and saying a year ago.Like a year ago today I recapped the walk to Fire Island....more