With regard to subjects, topics, political agendas and issues we all wish would just go away; they can, if they didn't exist....more

Reunited! And Silly Family Stories...

The girls came yesterday, and I couldn’t be more happy! Their little faces, their voices saying, “mommy!” oh geez, my heart about melted out of my chest. Ladybug bounded up to me in pre-school and said, “mommy, I missed you so so so much!  I haven’t seen you for a long, long, long time!’” and she promptly jumped into my arms.  When we got home, A was also home from work, and Ladybug jumped into his arms (rather onto his shoulders) and didn’t leave for an hour.  ...more

To My Beautiful Lumen on Father's Day

When my ex-husband Keith and I decided to divorce, I thought my chances of having a second child at my age were no more.  When I reminded myself that there are other ways to conceive a child besides the conventional way, within a marriage, with a husband, I thought about my life and how I hadn't taken many traditional routes, hadn't done things in orthodox ways, and didn't altogether comprehend the lure of the mainstream....more

How to Handle Father's Day With Your Kids After Your Divorce

We are in the middle of a not-so-easy-or-nice divorce, but I'll be buying my ex-husband a Father's Day gift this year. And here's why....more
I truly thought about being a big ol B and not helping her do anything but I would only teach ...more

Divorced or Single?

A friend of mine posted on her FB: it’s been 8 years since my divorce, so at the doctor’s office, I checked “single” rather than “divorced.”  I feel single, not divorced.  Does it matter?The reply comments ran along the lines of—well, it’s probably to keep medical records straight, especially if you used different names, so check divorced. ...more

Even After Two Divorces, It Was Just a Break-Up That Changed Everything

We sat in my living room as we had dozens of times in the nearly six months we’d been together. He was smiling, the same smile I adored from the moment I first saw it on the lips I never wanted to stop kissing, the lips I loved watching as he talked....more
Good for you, Vicki!  Isn't that just the most liberating thing ever!  One of the greatest joys ...more

Divorce and The Other Break-Up.

After you've weathered the many phases of going through a divorce; the emotional rollercoaster, the lawyers, the paperwork, explaining everything to the kids (or perhaps they knew it was coming), prepping the family members, there is another group of folks that are standing back watching it unfold too.  These are friends, neighbors, and acquaintances. You know the old saying, everyone is entitled to their own opinion.  Well it's the truth, people feel what they feel....more

My New Normal

I’m still here…I think this is the longest break I’ve had from blogging.Wasn’t intentional.  Nor lazy.  Nor anything.Just didn’t write.I didn’t forget — I jotted down a half a dozen things to write about…then?blankstaring at the blinking cursorblankNot sure why.  Tried to figure it out.  Then?I let it go……me?Yep, I let it go.  Not my normal……...more

Speak Kindly of Me

Beautiful. thank you for sharing your goodbye.more

Taking Selfies After My Divorce Helped Me Figure Out Who I Wanted To Be

Once my divorce was final, I became increasingly more active on social media. Along with taking more risks with what I was willing to share, I changed my profile picture for the first time in years. Fun! Now that I didn’t have to fit anyone else’s vision but my own, I could play with which pictures....more
lindasblogs yes agreed! Divorce can knock you out! And what kind of friends would trash talk a ...more