Good Behavior for 100 please

There was something that my family, close friends and I observed about my sons' behavior over this recent visit that had us all questioning where it could be coming from. It's an observation I made months ago. However, as a mother I realize I can be a little sensitive and I definitely over analyze sometimes. Regarding my son, I watch him close and sometimes notice things no one else would otherwise notice. I continued to monitor him without raising the issue initially....more

The Day I Discovered That I Just Don't Give A Shirt Anymore

Years ago, before the kids came along, back when the ex and I were young-ish and married-ish and could take wonderful, spontaneous vacations, an old ski buddy of his called him up and told him he'd gotten a screaming good deal on a weekend ski package to Vail, Colorado.I don't ski....more

I was on a break

A surgery break.  Damn knee.  Got it all cut up and corrected.  Healing time.Still divorcing.  Still trying to figure out HOW to finish this divorce.  Move on….be done.I think there are some misconceptions — no, I don’t want to fix it.  I think I addressed that in another blog.  There’s nothing to fix.  Nowhere to go but forward.  Alone....more

Is Your Ex Really a Narcissist?

There seems to be a EX Narcissist epidemic.   The most common statements I hear over social media and blogging are “My Ex is a Narcissist.”  OR “I was married to a Narcissist.”Funny, you just don’t hear I was married to a complete A**hole anymore.  Why?  Because the A**hole has been replaced by the Narcissist it seems....more
I think my soon to be X is both! http://survivingthepainofdivorce.blogspot.commore

Some Things Just Can't Be Explained

Tonight, my ex-husband showed up in my Facebook feed as one of the "People you may know." It said, too, that we had one friend in common. Yes, we do. She has children of her own now, our grandchildren.To have him show up this way, in a list with barely known people from professional settings and friends of friends I only communicate with on Facebook, seemed so curious. Scrolling through the list, I stopped at his picture. He looked distinguished and prosperous and very well....more

Single Parenting – A quick and candid guide to telling your kids it’s over.

I don’t even know how to begin this article. but I know its something I need to share. I also know there are Mommies out there struggling with this, that may not want to reach out for help, for fear of ridicule or judgement but you’re in the right place!...more

A Worthy Fight

What type of parent doesn't fight for their child?My father chose to give up.After I was out of my teens, he explained to me that my mother made his life very difficult. There was always an issue with child support or visitation and he couldn't deal with the constant arguing.Six year old me just wanted her daddy.No stories exist about our lives before the divorce. Does anyone remember what my life looked like back then? We were a family. Somewhere down the line, my parents forgot that....more

summer vacation--the blues before the sunrise, i hope

Today, I am simply worn down by all the crappity crap.  I don’t know why I wake up each morning, thinking it will be different.  Isn’t that one of those common sayings, that insanity is attempting to do the same thing over and over again, but expecting a different outcome?  I feel like I’m in the hamster wheel of nitpicky and the spokes are made of blaming innuendos and accusatory comments....more

Tonight I Am Angry

I received the divorce papers in the mail and I can't help but feel angry. Who is he to walk out on this marriage and leave me a single mother with four children?  But the thing that makes me the maddest is that he left me with the responsibility of two car notes and all the bills with a part time job!!! What right does he have to leave me with the burden of paying for two cars while he went out and got another car?  Why didn't he just take over the note on his truck that is sitting in my driveway?! ...more
I know how you feel.  I too am leaning on God for comfort peace and direction.  Hang in ...more

After Everything That's Going On...Now This

I think I've been holding it together really well considering my husband just walked out on me and my four kids, leaving me with two car notes and all the other bills. So after a long day of work, I picked my youngest son up and went home only to be greeted by my soon to be ex shortly after. ...more