Are you a co-parenting hypocrite?

Image credit: hypocrisy has existed as long as there have been parents....more

The New Year is Under Way

I’ve finished my first week on the job, which was spent in school. 120 handwritten pages, and three pens, and this back that doesn’t like to sit all day has survived, and survived it well. I wasn’t crazy about school, but I liked the information (most) I was learning! I could have done without Ocean and Inland Marine insurance, but it’s part of the license exam, so it’s part of the class. Bradley wondered why he has to learn about some of the algebraic lessons he’s learning in school right now, and I get to relate to him on a whole new level....more

Five Reasons Not to Stay Together For the Sake of the Kids

It happens all the time. He's unfaithful. She needs to decide whether to leave him or stay for the sake of the kids. Marriage is not easy. But, as someone who lived through this as a kid, let me tell you this: staying for the sake of the kids is the WORST thing you can do for the kids. Here are five reasons why: ...more
I struggle with this. I separated from my wife for a year because we were both so unhappy and ...more

Twice a Week and Every Second Weekend

 Each week since I separated from my husband ( now Ex ) almost nine years ago, my children have spent one night a week and every second weekend at their Dad's. My Ex and I carefully executed this plan and were very amicable ( still are ), especially when it came to our kids. The two of us are very easy going when it comes to being flexible with schedules and have never had much of a problem changing days or helping one another out. So here is the thing, I am finding it harder and harder when they leave for a weekend. I miss them tremendously.As they get older I, have much less time with them than I did when they were younger and needed me so much. If they aren't at their friend's house, then they are with a friend, at a sporting event, doing homework, singing at the top of her lungs in her bedroom, playing video games. You know the drill. Don't get me wrong. I am happy to be raising independent children, and hopefully I am teaching them all they need to grow up and be independent adults, but that does not stop my heart from missing them....more
That's a tough one. I totally feel you on the missing them more as they get older. I feel like ...more

Book The Stripper, We're having a Divorce Party!

  My series titled Book the Stripper, We’re Having a Divorce Party is a been-there-have-the-sad-bank- balance-to-show-for-it, kick up the pants, humorous celebration of the exciting choices a newly single woman is free to make. Such as how soon is too soon to book the Divorce Party?...more

The Facelift that Sparked a Divorce

When Inge told her husband she planned a face lift, he said that they couldn’t afford it. She thought they could; she asked Harry to show her the books.   He got angry, called her a shrew, a nag, and an ungrateful bitch of a wife, then stormed out of the room, slamming the door behind him.  I met Inge when she attended my seminar a few weeks after that incident. Recently, I saw her again on the walking trail. Animated and radiant, she looked years younger than I remembered her. She brought me up to date....more

Will I Always Come Second to My Boyfriend's Wife?

Today, I met my boyfriend's wife.Yes you read that right. They are currently going through a divorce.  She is beautiful, and it's not "I'm-saying-it-to-be-nice" beautiful. She is legitimately beautiful, but in a strange way. It felt strange to be sitting next to my boyfriend and his soon-to-be ex. I sat and thought about when they met and how they fell in love. They loved each other so much that they got married. They shared their first marriage together. This is something I will never know....more
My husband was married before and I'll be honest....I really don't think of myself as his ...more

Don't Let Your Ex Steam Roll You

We hear about bullies on the playground.  We worry our child will get bullied at school or even worse, we worry our child will be the bully. But bullying is something that goes on throughout our lives. It doesn’t end on the playground.  We can experience it in the workplace, in a relationship, in a friendship and most likely in a divorce.  Yes, there are such things as divorce bullies....more

Happy New Year, 2015!

Well, no time like the present to start the new year off with a blast.  ...more
Lisa Thomson Thank you so much for your kind words and response, Lisa! <3more

Guest Post from Huff Post "5 Steps to Avoid the Sunday Evening Blues" by Kat Forsythe MSW

I found this interesting article on Huff Post…wonderful site.  I always wondered why I felt so down on Sunday evening, even before this divorce stuff started.  My comments will be in italics….."Reinvention After Divorce: 5 Steps to Avoid the Sunday Evening Blues"From Huff PostBy Kat Forsythe MSW...more