MAKE YOUR HOT MESS, YOUR HOT MESSAGE!

 "Lessons often come dressed up as detours and roadblocks." -Oprah At 31 years young, I am learning that there is a time and place in which we should take off our mask and show another side to us. At times, you become tired of holding it together and want to fall apart only to pick up the pieces....more

The Breakthrough after a Breakup

“Each of our paths is uniquely perfect. Life presents us with what we need to grow.” Judith Orloff, M.D. The Ecstasy of SurrenderShe was crying daily, uncontrollably, in front of clients and behind closed doors. It had been several weeks since her break-up and she was feeling so out of control with her emotions that she thought she needed to be put away somewhere....more

8 Things I Learned From My Divorce

#7 hits so close to home for me! Loved it! Thank you for postingmore

4 Reasons to Avoid Consumer Credit Counseling & Debt Settlement Compnies

You're in debt. Creditors are blowing up your phone and you dread checking the mail because you're tired of seeing the red stamped "Past Due" letters. Most of us have been there. I know I have, but I quickly decided this was no way I wanted to live my life. I decided to take control, found my way into the financial industry and learned the secrets of debt collectors, Consumer Credit Counseling agencies, and debt settlement/debt negotiation companies. Over the course of two to three years, I dwindled down $20k and since then, I've been happily living debt free....more

My Story….Page 1

I have decided I am going to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth so help me God.  I am going to tell it in segments here on my divorce recovery blog.  I have been silent way too long.  For today I am just going to share a photo and some scripture…....more

The Serenity of Sadness

Throughout this journey, I think I have managed to hold it together pretty well, maybe too well. I had my share of meltdowns, but predominately in the realm of anxiety not sadness. I've obsessed, I've worried, I've won several gold medals in overthinking and immersed myself in happy distractions. That's what I do in the face of traumatic/dramatic events, I block, I distract myself, I don't let it in. I am GREAT at it. Until I'm not. Because inevitably the giant tsunami comes crashing down upon me. Like it is now....more

Cherry Red Walls and Normal

Three months and three weeks ago. I left. I blogged about staying in hotels and on friends’ couches and in their basements. I blogged about living out of my trunk- an assortment of suitcases and boxes of graham crackers and granola bars and apples. I wrote about this being a better alternative to living somewhere where I needed to call the police but was terrified to make that embarrassing phone call.  ...more

Once Upon Another Time

I lost the baby pool by 4 hours. The man who is technically still my husband has a new baby as of 4:00 am yesterday. I have spent the last 24 hours trying to decipher what it is that I am feeling. I think the answer lies somewhere in the haunting Sarah Bareilles song that has been running through my head on a loop since yesterday afternoon, "Once Upon Another Time"......more

It's Goin' Down, I'm Yellin' Tinder

Have you heard of Tinder? It's a dating app that uses your Facebook profile and matches you with people based on your geographic/age preferences, mutual friends and interests. It takes all of 5 minutes to be up and running, then you anonymously like or pass on people by swiping left no/right yes. If you have both swiped right it results in a "match" and the app opens a text chat between you. In actuality it is a game, and when you hit on a match you have the option to stop and text your new match or "Keep Playing". I can handle playing. Dating, not so much....more

Disturbing Behavior

DISCLAIMER: As much as I will bash my soon to be ex-husband (EX) in my posts, it does take two. I wasn't a gem all of the time either, and I own my participation in the demise of our marriage. I sincerely wish him the best and send him love and light. But he just provides way too much material....more