The Comeback Kid: 6 Ways You Can Improve The Holiday Handover

No matter how much you know and trust that your child is safe, loved, and well cared for with your ex, it can be difficult having your kids away for a week or many weeks at a time. Being able to walk into your child’s room and see them sleeping or to be able to give them a hug whenever you feel like it are good, good feelings. However, handovers involve at least three people’s feelings and that can complicate things. Here are some tips to make the transition as smooth as possible....more

Merry Hour

Merry Hour, as defined by Joni Frances (Thurber):The term used during the Christmas holiday season to define what is typically called "happy hour."...more

13 Things I Lost During My Divorce

As my divorce papers are about to be filed these are just some of the things which I have lost so far:  1. My Husband and Best Friend He was the person who knew me best in the world and the person who I shared everything with.  He was the person who, at one time ,was my biggest fan; at times he believed in me more than I believed in myself.  ...more
Lisa Thomson Because divorce is a civil act, you have no right to legal representation. Legal ...more

Salted Caramel Christmas

I’m dreaming of Christmas.  I love this time of year and at the same time, I feel melancholy, the blues.So first the love:...more

Dear Dr. Romance: I loved her then and I love her today

Dear Dr. Romance:...more

The Rise and the Fall

Christmas is coming.  You know this.  I know this.  Except the wrinkle:  divorce pending.  Of course it is -- it stays "pending". This year?  I split time with my kids.This year?  I have less to do with gifts.This year?  My plan is different.This year?  I have ups and downs.This year?  I have to let some stuff go.This year?  Please end. There are many rises and falls in my life.   Could be every day.  Could be every week.  Could be a slower rolling.UpandDown...more

How Do You Celebrate Holidays After Divorce?

Among divorced parents, there is a crescendo of dread, anxiety and sadness that builds throughout the Fall. The mixed feelings arise in relation to not spending every holiday with their children.The idea of ‘celebrating’ Thanksgiving without your kids seems vaguely absurd. And the idea of waking on Christmas morning and not hearing the squeals of excitement from your kids is downright awful. I’ve heard many a divorced parent state that they’d like to take an Ambien and just sleep through the holiday when they don’t have their kids....more
The first time I had to spend Christmas without my son I was depressed.  It got so much easier. ...more

Relationship Patterns & Soulful Truth Telling

“As long as habit and routine dictate the pattern of living, new dimensions of the soul will not emerge.”  Henry Van Dyke If you want to know what your love life will look like in the coming year, you only need to know the answer to one question: “Are you willing to do something differently in 2015 than you have in years past?”...more

Why Frozen's 'Let It Go' Is The Ultimate Divorce Anthem

Haven’t seen the Disney movie, Frozen? Oh, you’re the one. But if you haven’t seen it, you’re bound to have heard it. Songs from the movie have become so recognizable they rival any of Disney’s animated predecessors. Google “Let It Go lip sync” and over seven million results pop up instantaneously. Mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, and even Navy baseball team players have charmingly thrown their miming hats into the YouTube ring.  ...more

Interview with a Divorcee

Marriage (also called matrimony or wedlock) is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws.[1] The definition of marriage varies from culture to culture, but it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships are acknowledged....more