A Beginner's Guide to Ropes and Restraints

I remember the first time my partner and I went shopping for rope at our local adult store. A kindly-looking woman my mother’s age showed us a fine selection of ropes, leathers, and tape and then, laughing, said, “That’ll make sure her cute ass can’t escape!”I could tell it was gonna be awesome....more

Does there have to be a spark??

Let’s talk about sex.  So mom, if you are reading this, please stop right here and click the little “x” on the upper right part of your screen.   ...more

Having the “Talk” is Never Easy, but Perhaps this Book Can Help: Why Women Have Sex?


My Journey Through the Mystery of Sex

After over a year and a half of research and writing, my first book is finally almost here! With my book I want to make the science of sex more accessible. Sex impacts every person’s life. Most of us shift between feeling confident and content with our sexual selves to feeling naive and flawed. But we commonly ask the same questions about human sexuality:...more

Crushes Are NOT For Me!

I recently read a blog post about crushes that happened to mesh pretty well with thoughts that were already inside this pretty little mind of mine. If by mesh you mean I think that it is totally wrong and I can completely explain why.The post was about non-obligation crushes....more
SadWhaleFamily ugh put me right in that camp, the camp for jerksmore

Virginal Bleeding on the Wedding Night

Saving Lives: Stop equating wedding night blood on a sheet with chastity. Not all virgins bleed at their first intercourse. ...more
I would love to hear from other women if they bled at their first intercourse. Or if this was ...more

Please Don’t Hug or Kiss Me at Work – Version 2, Sexual Harassment

Here’s a longer, more complete version of the subject of yesterday’s blog post – unwanted hugging and kissing in the workplace. In the context of a series of similar incidents detailed below, the stories I related yesterday seem to take on a different light.—...more

5 Ways to Up your Sex Appeal

We all have heard it, being sexy is one of the most intriguing things a person can radiate. Sexiness is not necessarily innate. You can create a sexier you by changing or adding a few things. Whether you are in a relationship or looking for one, it is an important attribute. BUT make sure you do not confuse sexiness for sleaziness. No one finds that attractive, well except for unattractive people....more

The S Word.

Good evening, my lovlies. Since this is my first blog on BlogHer.com, I wanted to start off by telling you a little bit about myself. My name is Allarae Reisinger, but most people just call me Allie. I am a sophomore at the beautiful Miami University. The Ohio one. Not the Florida one. Fun fact: we were a university before Florida was a state. Just thought I'd throw that one out there. I am an Athletic Training major, which really translates to me basically wanting to wrap ankles for the rest of my life. Okay, there is a little more to it than that, but that's the gist....more

Romance Does Not Necessarily Mean "Love"

In romantic depictions of love, cute little images of cherubs and cupids abound. But Cupid, in his real incarnation, is not so sweet and cuddly. His arrows can create deep and lasting wounds, and can strike you blind and irrational in a heartbeat. A few disaster-filled run-ins with Cupid’s dart and you can readily believe that love will never work for you. ...more
Yes, I've had romances without a lot of love, and the deepest love without a lot of romance.more