Today I met with the staff of an organization that helps survivors of sexual abuse and educates the public. I read some poems, showed the paintings and gave a talk from my book Enfolded in Silence/A Story in Art of Healing from Sexual Trauma in Childhood (Amazon.com). I talked about how you heal from child sexual abuse. It was well recieved and I may do more work for their organization in the future. Doing this kind of thing is so rewarding for me. I want to give back the healing I have been given. More book signings coming up this summer....more
Approximately 5% of men have Premature Ejaculation (PE) based on medical data. But the percent of men experiencing PE at some time in their life may be much higher –up to 20%– because so few men go in for treatment. Some may be skipping treatment because they are not in partnership with women, in part because of PE....more
Almost half (46%) of all women have had pain at intercourse (dyspareunia). Dyspareunia or painful intercourse can be thought of as either “introital” (pain during penetration) or deep, which is experienced during the thrusting of intercourse. Dyspareunia can be due to a number of factors, including the vestibular burning and irritation of PVD as discussed in Part 1: Common Causes of Chronic Pain.Pain during sex can also be caused by:...more
Chronic pain in the vaginal area of women is, sadly, pretty common. About 25% of women suffer at some point in their lives from a chronic burning, “knife-like” rawness of the vulva and vestibule called provoked vestibulodynia (PVD) or vulvodynia.The vestibule is that area between the labia minora, the inner lips of the vulva (outside our body) and the urethra (inside our body). It is the part of the “vagina” that women would see if they spread the lips of their vulva open and looked inside themselves with a mirror....more
I loathe the phrase “Men are visual creatures”.It’s a phrase used to excuse things from excessive porn watching to infidelity. It makes women wear things they’d never wear and excuses the lack of reciprocity when it comes to things they find visual appealing. It says that women don’t care about looks while men do and shames women who care all at the same time. I believe women are just as visual as men, but our socialization has pushed us to downplay those things while our insecurities bubble up with each photo or video in our newsfeeds and timelines....more
Today’s post is for the dudes. Or for the those who have dude partners who are having trouble getting it up.Erectile dysfunction sucks. Not just because your partner can’t get it up, but it can also be a real mood and confidence killer....more
Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) is a gynecological condition when women develop the wrong kind of bacteria in their vagina. The most obvious symptom is a strong fishy smell that occurs after sex, during a woman’s period, or mid-cycle when she is ovulating. The strong fishy smell occurs from the bad bacteria when they are exposed to changes in vaginal pH. If you have these symptoms you should talk to a healthcare provider for medical advice.
He’ll get more… if he helps out more! An essential lesson for husbands.Listen to Dr. Susan Rutherford, a Clinical Psychologist's advice about how to get more equal participation in your marriage. ...more