When Does Sex Become Too Risqué for You?

At a gathering of friends the other night, the topic of sex came up. First, it was just us girls sitting around having a drink, laughing and swapping stories; giving and taking advice on everything from whether or not we swallow (and why not, if not) to our favorite way to orgasm (position, g-spot vs clitoral).Then the guys came out to join our conversation....more
What I love after having learned about a movement called the Sex Positive movement is that all ...more

Your Darkest Hour

It's probably one in the morning.  But I don't want to look at my phone because if it is 1am it will just remind me that I'm still awake and not sleeping.  My mind is on. My heart pounds quickly. "I just want to sleep" I think to myself as my husband sleeps soundly.  How? How can I sleep when there is always a constant movement of worry and anxiety in my mind.  An endless to do list that never goes away and somehow never gets done....more

Talk show interview on my book about sexual abuse

I was interviewed recently on an online talk show sponsored by Stop the Silence, an organization to help prevent childhood sexual abuse. The interview was about my book, Enfolded in Silence/A Story in Art of Healing from Sexual Trauma in Childhood (amazon.com). I read poetry about my abuse experiences and also about how I healed, both of which are in my book. I continue to look for opportunities to spread the word about sexual abuse and healing. Healing is possible with good help and perseverance. It took time for me, but the life I lead now is very precious....more

Why I Stayed In My Sexless Marriage

There's nothing in the world worse than knowing you have a serious problem that everyone else in the world seems to not have. For instance, a sexless marriage. ...more
I was relieved when I got to the end of this. I was worried the whole way through you would have ...more

So, Would You Date a Bisexual Guy?

Editor's Note: This piece was first published in April, 2009. I enjoyed the discussion of sexual fluidity and gender identity. For Pride Month, I want to feature more BlogHer posts that discuss queer identities when it comes to dating, love, and sex. - Feminista Jones For someone like me, living in oh so open-minded Northern California, the tabloid press stories about celebrities’ sex lives are kinda puzzling. Every week, there’s a story outing some star’s sexual life:“Gavin Rossdale’s ex-girlfriend is a man!”...more
Bi or not is not a question with me.  But if I choose to be with someone, call me naive, but I ...more

The Duggar Story is Mine

I know this is not what I normally write about here but the subject is incredibly important.........more
I am so sorry that you had this happen to you. I have tentatively followed the Duggar story, for ...more

The Power of Silk Stockings: 7 Tips for a Better Sex Life

There's something about putting on a simple piece of something silky that makes me feel sexy and does powerful things to my guy. B loves the silky feeling of stockings, thigh -highs to be exact, and I love the way it makes me feel to have him trail his fingers up and down my legs while I'm wearing them. It's these intimate moments and small touches that make for our healthy and voracious sex life. Lately, it seems that there are a lot of articles and pins popping up around the web about intimacy missing from relationships....more
I agree. It's too easy for us as women to get trapped in the what am I supposed to feel like, ...more

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"The guy who I was dating, who was passed out in the living room, would likely have gotten ...more

Book Review: Archer's Voice by Mia Sheridan

I was recommended this book by my book whore sister from another mother. She kept telling me “JUST READ IT DAMMIT” and finally after dragging my feet, reading other books for indie authors and in general just procrastinating……I read it!...more

8 Easy Steps to More Bacon.

This morning, as I was innocently perusing Facebook, I happened across a link to an article that made me want to run away screaming. My neck tensed up. My heart raced. It was awful. ...more
Thanks, Melissa!more