Let’s Have That Sex Talk Now, Kids.

I’m writing about sex today because it’s on my mind. And not in a good way. And it’s SEX, dude. If I’m thinking about it or you’re thinking about it, it SHOULD BE in a fucking good way, amiright? But it’s me here so let’s get real. Sigh. ...more
DatewithLucy haha!  Lucy you are the best!  Thanks for your POV.  Yeah---hit the gym last night ...more

Compersion: A Polyamorous Principle That Can Strengthen Any Relationship

I vividly remember the first time I felt it.  My husband and I were in the backyard, lazing in the sun, sipping drinks as he described the previous evening. As he talked, his face looked brighter, his eyes clearer.  In a flash of déjà vu, I remembered that same vibrant and enraptured look from twenty-five years earlier when we first met. It was a sudden reemergence of his vitality that I hadn’t fully seen in our domestic nest for many years. But now in his detailed (and scintillating) descriptions, that fire in his eyes was beaming....more
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Free Book Giveaway on Amazon!

Polyamourous, kinky, sex-positive author promoting an alternative to monogamous, vanilla living.My book "Polyamory and BDSM, Discoving Love, Sex, Vulnerability and Radical Honesty" is out on Amazon worldwide and today it is available to download for free today only! Available here: Amazon...more

What Does An Orgasm Feel Like?

Trying to explain what an orgasm feels like is tricky. While we can all agree it feels absolutely amazing and it’s something we would, ideally, like to feel on repeat forever, finding the actual words to describe the specific, detailed feeling of an orgasm leaves many of us, if not most of us, speechless. ...more
Maybe Betty White said it best on Golden Girls--she said something like, "I'd been married seven ...more

I'm Coming Out, Again, After Getting a Divorce

My first 'coming out' was around 1992.It happened in an era when spotting a friend at a gay club meant stammered excuses and letting an HIV-positive friend sip from your drink meant hearing loud gasps.So why, in 2015, am I coming out again? The landscape has changed since 1992. We now have marriage equality in the majority of states and we have had a transgender woman, Laverne Cox, on the cover of TIME magazine....more
There are a boatload of terms now and quite a few have arisen in the asexual community.   And ...more

The cost of family planning

Well-meaning friends and family members always have questions. When you start dating someone for a while, they want to know when you are getting married. When you get married, they want to know when you are going to have a baby. When you have a baby, they want to know if you are going to have another baby. (And, if several years go by, they really want to know if you are going to have another baby. If you hedge at all, they are happy to remind you that you should do it now.)...more

Women, Claim Your Orgasms!

A wise woman once said that an orgasm is not something she has (As in “I just had an amazing orgasm!”), rather it is something she takes – which makes a lot of sense to me. Having an orgasm is my responsibility, not that of my partner! Goodness knows I have faked a fair few of them in my life, I am not proud to say. In fact I had been sexually active for nearly ten years before I shared my first orgasm with someone else, my husband (then boyfriend). Previously it was something I could only achieve on my own and for years I thought I was defective somehow....more

Survey Says? The Real Scoop on Sexless Marriage

Top Google searches for sex and sexuality were spotlighted in a recent and enlightening New York Times article. According to author Seth Stephens-Davidowich, "sexless marriage" is the most Googled phrase about sex and marriage -- even beating out "unhappy marriage" and "loveless marriage." Stephens-Davidowich claims over 21,000 folks search for sexless marriage results every month....more
I think it's obvious that the decision to have a sexless marriage is not always made by both ...more