When Manscaping Goes Wrong.

I'm having a bit of a body hair crisis.  It's not my body hair that is in crisis.  It's the man's.  Lemme 'splain:...more

Real Discussions About Sex: "I Wasn't Planned?"

Weeks ago, I decided to have the “birds and bees” conversation with my son. Seeing that I had his complete attention, and thinking that this may be my only chance to get some real facts in, I began telling him about the 1% factor in birth control and that abstinence is the only 100% method. I explained that even though 1% is an extremely low percentage, it is a fact that should not be ignored; especially since, he too, falls in the 1% equation. He looked at me with wide eyes and said, “I wasn’t planned?” In that split second, I decided the truth would, ultimately, be better than telling a lie just to make him feel better....more
Tangential but important point: It's very misleading to refer to a '1% factor' in terms of birth ...more

What Does It Mean to Be Empowered?

Empowerment a concept that frequently comes up in discussions about sexuality. How can you tell if someone who wants to give oral sex, try anal sex, or have an open relationship is doing it because it's what they genuinely desire? In a world in which our likes and dislikes are shaped and limited by the world around us, how do we know whether our choices are empowered or not? ...more
This is an excellent exposition on what it means to be true to yourself - not just in sex, but ...more

Where is the Hymen?

It doesn't matter how much we push for some semblance of sex ed or how many brilliant science educators get their own blogs -- as far as literature is concerned, the hymen is an internal organ. Why is that? Where is the hymen really? ...more
I am a high school principal and you can only imagine the kinds of questions our biology ...more

Should Respectable Writers Publish in Playboy?

Carl Zimmer, a celebrated science writer, has published a piece about Neil deGrasse Tyson in the January issue of Playboy magazine. Almost immediately after the article started making the rounds on the internet, the question of whether "respectable authors" should publish in magazines like Playboy arose. ...more

Porn on a Plane: How To Deal With Awkward In-Flight Situations

You squeeze into your row and settle in, your favorite guilty-pleasure magazine in hand. But no sooner have you taken off, leaned back and started to disappear into the article in your hands that an image catches your eye in the monitor of the person immediately beside you. Oh, dear Lord. The person next to you has plans for in-flight relaxation, too, but unfortunately for you, these plans involve watching porn. What do you do? ...more
Wow!  People are a never ending source of amazement!  But if there are wild public porn ...more

I’m really terrified right now

You know I’m really terrified right now – I’m standing around crying praying to god to let me be okay!  I just always felt that if straightened up and went to god that he would take my life from me and look my kidneys are failing are on the brink of failing there is something going on.  Then on the other hand what if the blood in my underwear is not coming from my urethra and is actually coming from my vagina and is implantation bleeding and I’m fucking pregnant by that deadbeat because he couldn’t stop fucking me after he came inside the condom and I told him to stop.&nb...more
Prayers sent your way... I hope things work out for the best. Good luck lovemore

Newborn in a Box

Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. A baby girl was found in a cardboard box on a north Philly sidewalk. I am sick to my stomach as I write this because I can picture a newborn baby stuck in a box and left to die, while the irresponsible mother walks away. Here are the details behind the news and how I feel about it......more

Does Defining Child Porn Go Too Far? Should You Get Rid of Naked Baby Pics?

In 2008, an Arizona couple was accused of sexual abuse after taking bath-time photos of their children -- then ages 1 1/2, 4 and 5 -- and then trying to have them developed at Walmart. The parents were not allowed to see their children for several days and didn't regain custody for a month while the state investigated. Ultimately, neither parent was charged with sexual abuse and they regained custody of their children. Imagine the lasting harm this inflicted on the children and their parents. Then imagine it happening to you....more
So every photo taken during the1930s and 40s is sex abuse? My God, those shots, usually taken ...more