Grandma wants you to have more children

For the decade I was with my husband before we wed, my extended family had one question for us: When are you two getting married? Every family reunion, wedding of one of my cousins or catch up phone call somehow elicited that question....more

The Wonder

There’s something so moving about the absolute confidence young children have in our judgment.They trust us.They believe to their core that we wish them well.Over the past several days, I got to know my granddaughter, and I lived these truths. Amelie lives on the opposite coast so I haven’t seen her as much as I have my other grandkids who live nearer. In fact, it’s safe to say she didn’t know me at all.But, we got on like a house afire.Without a thought, she’d hold my hand. Sit on my lap. Get in my car.  ...more

Potty Training, Sticker Style

Potty Training, Sticker Style Make your mistakes, take your chances, look silly, but keep on going. Don’t freeze up.  ~Thomas Wolfe...more

On Being Meemaw, or . . . Giving CPR to Puff the Magic Dragon

“The relationship between a boy and his Meemaw is a special one, isn’t it?” Sheldon Cooper to Will Wheaton, The Big Bang Theory.When I told my mother I was pregnant with my first child, Matt well, it wasn’t a pretty sight, to say the least. She was desperately unhappy with me, and with the idea of being a grandmother.“I don’t want to be called Grandma,” she said. “The kid can call me Mary.”OK. Shrug....more

Grandma's House Is on the Market: We Took a Look

Last week, my grandparents' old house went on the market. It has been inhabited by another family for almost twenty years now, yet every time I drive by it, I still think of it as Grandma and Grandpa's house ... despite the many renovations. My mom, my aunt and I decided to go to the open house, to see what had changed and what had stayed the same....more
Loved this! You are brave...not sure if I could go into my grandparents' home after someone else ...more

The Reflex of Deference: What Keeps Male Privilege Going

Deference is the wee tiny rock that women carry in their pockets, the signal to tell them to get out of the way, sit down and be quiet, but who put that rock there?...more
Patriarchy is like air, the signals are everywhere. It can be overcome, but it isn't easy. It ...more

How Do You Say Goodbye When He Doesn't Believe He's Dying?

How do you say goodbye to someone who doesn't believe he's dying?...more
We understand that. We really do. There were just things to say...and it was hard.more

Just Like I Remembered: High School Reunion

 When my old boyfriend came through the door of the hotel where my 40th high school reunion was being held, three girls, wait, three 58-year old women scurried over to quick give me the 411.  "Clark's here." "He's right over there." Shushing and fluttering like starlings after the same bug, they gathered round waiting for my reaction. My reaction?...more

Pioneer Spirit: A Message from Leafa.

 Leafa Numbers was my paternal grandmother. We had a chat this week. She was born in 1888 in a sod shanty in Kansas....more
I love this story, how magical it must be to listen to your Grandmother speak....more