I don’t want to come off as ungrateful.
I had a mom who was home from school when I got there, who checked my homework, and who tucked me in at night. She taught me how to bake and gave me an appreciation for everything that involved 15th to 17th century European court. We could spend hours on a snow day camped out on the couch, eating our freshly baked cookies and watching Jane Austen novels-turned-A&E specials. I understand how lucky this makes me.
We are the people we are because of the influence of our ancestors. If these stories are unwritten, then how are your children going to know of their heritage? These stories could be lost simply because you failed to write their experiences down....more
It starts around 5:00. Before that, the day has hope. At 5:00, hope evaporates into little clouds of resignation that then gather and form a storm cloud of dread. It's as if someone has given me a pill timed to dampen my mood and behavior late afternoon every Sunday.This has been true every Sunday night of my conscious memory and I'd like to know why....more
This time she broke her hip. Although she was in a ritzy assisted-living facility, the ravages of Alzheimer’s had taken her balance, her wit, her sense and ultimately, her dignity. My husband drove the six hours to get there and met up with his sister. Along with my brother-in-law, the three kept vigil over her, did jigsaw puzzles and told corny jokes....more
A new study says patients have no long-term benefit from using cognitive enhancers to try to improve concentration, memory, alertness and moods.Although there were some short-term benefits to using the pills on one cognition scale, the drugs actually significantly increased the nausea, diarrhea, vomiting and headaches for most people. There were NO benefits on the second cognition scale or on behavior, function and mortality....more
What does the word “grandparents” mean to you? For me, it has many meanings.I think of my own grandparents, who have all passed away. I was exceptionally close to my grandmothers and used their maiden names to name my first born. I think of wonderful afternoons connecting as well as missed opportunities. I think of how delighted they would be at news about my boys and the comfort they would have given me on days parenting seems overwhelmingly tough....more
It turns out that video games might actually help boost your cognitive skills as you age. I’m not talking about the kind of videogames that your children or grandchildren might play, but rather a specialized game designed with you in mind to help with multi-tasking and your hand-eye coordination as you age....more
Driving is a rite of passage for many of us. Unfortunately, not being able to drive any more due to age is also a rite of passage, but not a positive one. According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, an average of 500 older adults are injured EVERY DAY and 15 are killed EVERY DAY due to driving accidents. But, no matter who we have talked to, taking away the keys is one of the hardest transitions caregivers note having to make and most try to avoid it....more
I like to say I knew her when.
I knew her when her bangs were cut straight across with sewing scissors because the idea of spending real money on a haircut for a kid seemed outlandish to me.
I knew her when she would dangle upside down from a metal bar at the playground, do a flip and land on her feet on the concrete while I covered my eyes and waited for the absence of crying.
I knew her when she would sit across from me, a single mom with a single daughter, while we ate dinners made with a lot of macaroni and tomato soup.