Moving in with your in-laws and having it work takes some thinking and talking in advance. And by some, I mean a lot. I say that from a professional respect too - as I mentioned previously, I work in housing and community management.These are the areas that I anticipate we will need to discuss:...more
Fear is not the first feeling I want to elicit from my children when I see them in the morning. Fear is not how most mothers want their kids to say they feel about them. But fear is a natural byproduct of the parent-child dynamic, no matter how hard we try to rid ourselves of it.
Effective use of space is one of the things I've read that is key to making multigenerational living a success. The house we have to work with? Not necessarily designed for this. It's a 100-year-old farmhouse with 1 bathroom. I've also read quite a bit on determining how long you'll be staying. To my husband and I, it makes the most financial sense to just settle into multigenerational living so that we can build the house designed for it that much sooner. We weren't so sure about what his parents' thoughts were about that, though.Current configuration of my in-laws' house......more
For all my brave talk, all my "I'm really Stevie Nicks" under these black dress pants and sensible shoes, for all my aging is a joyous, beautiful thing, a lucky thing, priceless if you take it in the right way, all my advice to quit thinking you're diminishing when you should be looking at your vast accumulation of riches, I have to admit this. I am legacy planning.I am thinking about when I am not here....more
When I was a kid, I always told my mom that I would live with her forever, and that my husband and family would live in the basement. As I grew up and left home (literally moving to another region of the country), this was something that we laughed about. Now, my husband and I are preparing for the near-inevitability of moving in with his parents. ...more
"Life is what happens when we're busy making plans." - John Lennon (attributed)Im here to tell you, that it is the gospel truth, just about the time I got it all figured out, karma dropped a bomb. ...more