When I met my husband, I threw myself into every part of his Mexican culture. I learned to prepare traditional foods, like mole and capriotada for special occassions. I took Spanish in college, became the director of our church's annual Hispanic fiesta and eventually began planning our wedding that included items like a lazo, cojines and arras. There were so many new things to learn, but I never felt overwhelmed or out of place....more
I've started taking my boys to our new black church. Due to significant transitions in work and other factors, I'd lost consistent, ongoing healthy interactions with A LOT of the black folks in my life. After some time, this reality hit me hard. I started asking myself all the questions:
NUMBER ONE: Where are my black people, for crying out loud?
Why don’t I have more black friends whom I see on a regular basis?
Why aren’t I reading more black authors?
It’s interesting being a parent of biracial children in that -- like with most things with motherhood -- I’m fumbling around in the dark.Digging through my five-year-old’s backpack, I ran across a worksheet on Martin Luther King, Jr. Curious, I asked him what he learned about King in school. Image Credit: Ron Cogswell via Flickr ...more
How does something so simple go viral? I have no freaking clue. The last few weeks have been a crazy whirlwind of excitement. Messages, social media notifications, article after article linking back to my blog, showing off my baby girl. I'm still at awe at how many people are interested in something so simple: a birthday message for a man who makes our lives better every single day....more
Making the rounds on my Facebook timeline today is a story about how biracial families make Washington Post columnist Richard Cohen “want to puke.”
Public Advocate Bill de Blasio's inauguration, January 1, 2010, Image Credit: Public Advocate Bill de Blasio, via Flickr...more
The race blogging world has been abuzz over the case of a Virginia man accused of kidnapping his own children. The father, who is white, was seen leaving a Walmart store with his three daughters who are bi-racial (their mother is black). The clue that tipped off security? A customer reported that the dad and his children "just don't match up"....more
“As my sufferings mounted I soon realized that there were two ways in which I could respond to my situation — either to react with bitterness or seek to transform the suffering into a creative force. I decided to follow the latter course.” -Martin Luther King Jr.
This is a week to reflect on how much progress we’ve made since the days of segregation and how much farther we have to go to fight racism....more
I recently got into a little disagreement on Facebook, through a comment thread on an acquaintance’s page. I left a comment saying that people who fly confederate flags are generally not the kind of people who a black man (or woman) might want to be caught in a dark alley with. My point was not so much that flying a confederate flag makes you a racist, but in my experience, they usually are.Then I got called a racist. By a white guy from Mississippi. Which, as another commenter on the thread pointed out, was kind of humorous, seeing as I am also white....more
[Editor's Note: Snide comments and disapproving looks are things mixed-race families will run into sooner or later. But when Jamie from I'm Not the Babysitter adopted her black son, she anticipated disapproval from other Caucasian people. Not the case. It turns out, the stares and comments come from people of all races. And she writes that it's the disapproval of black people that gets to her the most. --Grace]...more