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What makes a woman "hot"?
Sure, it's a loaded question. But I'm willing to bet that you have an answer or two. Or three. Or fifty-seven hundred.
To me (and I guess Paris Hilton, whatever, forehead smack) "hot" is a powerful designation. It's something I have always wanted to be considered, a la Wow, she's HOT. It's also something I thought I was sometimes, occasionally, in the rare instances I've felt thin enough because I could fit into the right clothes.
Can you relate? Yes, well, it's time to change that.
More women than not have an unrealistic expectation about what healthy is for them. We strive to fit the current societal standards of attractive weight. I know that I did this for many, many years and have only in the past few years been able to look at myself as a healthy fit person even though I don’t have 6-pack abs! I recently read an interesting fact about this increasingly sought after, but elusive ab definition in Dr. Northrup’s book “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom.
Some people call it a midlife crisis. I call it cruel and unusual punishment. My middle-age years have resulted in some spreading, sagging and cellulite--- while my breasts, belly and lap are getting better acquainted. Gone are the days when I could chow down at the all-you-can-eat buffets and never gain a pound. All those burgers, fries, pork chops, ribs, fried chicken and late night cocktails seem to have caught up with me. These days everything I eat goes straight to my waistline.
Six years ago, I was dating a Jewish fellow who I will call Abe. Like many men, his kryptonite was breasts, and lucky for him I am a very well-endowed woman, residing in the neighborhood of DDs. They're lovely and I adore them. The nipples don't stare at the floor, they're perky, and they're just pretty.
Now, prior to myself, Abe's sexual experience was limited to one small-breasted girl and pornography downloaded from the internet. Surprising considering he was a good looking guy, although he did err on the side of being socially inept.
Women are certainly used to talking about their bodies. But what would you say if you were talking to your body? That’s the question at the heart of the new “Letter to My Body" campaign, which encourages women to write letters to their bodies and join a groundbreaking conversation about how each and every one of us can promote positive body image in our own lives.
From my friend, Mary McDonough:
Recent pictures of Christina Aguilera, posted at Yeeeah.com, called "Christina's Boobs Are Revolting," are turning peoples' heads and making us shake ours. This poor girl! Is she another to add to the long list of celebrities that have turned to implants for job security and attention?
We're like so 21st century now. If you're on Facebook, join our group! After all, one of our 5 Resolutions is to stay connected. This seems like a pretty good way to do it. See you there!
Read more at 5 Resolutions to Transform the Fashion and Beauty Industries.