We were just hi-fiving and celebrating Winnie Harlowe as she was one of many influential women to grace the cover of a major magazine in what has been an epic Fall cover month for Black women. Now, it appears that the model is in the middle of quite a crossroads and has taken, according to many, an unpopular stance.Let’s take it from the top, shall we? So, this happened……....more
If you’re reading this… then you probably have cellulite… but it’s not too late. Most women will encounter those pesky dimples at some point in their lives. It can be a major source of insecurity for many, and the reason we cover up with a sarong or sometimes avoid the pool all together. We all secretly love to catch a glimpse of an unedited paparazzi shot exposing our favourite celeb caught off-guard sporting the tell-tale dimples that make them human, an...more
Why am I going from elated about my progress and proud of myself to looking in the mirror and knowing I'll never meet those goals I set for myself? Why are there days when I look at my boyfriend and think I must look really good to him, and other days when I wonder if he is only with me because meeting people is hard? Why do I let the words of my ex-husband, "Fat. Ugly. Disgusting" crawl across the face of my mirror when I am getting dressed in the morning? Aren't change and meeting goals supposed to be fun? I'm in the process of having great days and horrible days. I'm stuck in an emotional purgatory of weight loss.
I had my teeth cleaned yesterday and my dentist offered me Botox.During the 15 minute battle to determine my dental insurance number I pointed to the laminated sign advertising smooth skinning poison and asked the woman behind the desk what she thought of the Botox. “It’s great, people say they have to wait four weeks at their dermatologist, but WE can often get them in the next day. White teeth and smooth skin makes any lady happy!”Convenient....more
We have all seen these headlines on the internet and in magazines. These are some I just came across:Lose 10 Pounds On Our 7 Day Juice CleanseBoost Your Energy and Clear Your Skin On Our "Eat Clean" DietMelt Away Fat In Two Weeks With Our New Diet...more
Hello dear readers! I haven't written in a little bit, My head has been spinning since school started two weeks ago. As precious as this time is to me, it seems to be one of the firsts to go when everything else presses in. But, Hello! Seems I have finally been able to create somewhat of a weekly structure for My youngest and I while big sis is at school, and this has allowed me to dive back in!...more
Frequently, I get messages from people — usually cis men who are dating cis women, but not always — asking me what the hell they’re supposed to do when their partner talks negatively about their own body.“She’s unhappily gained weight since we’ve been together, and I know saying ‘I still think you’re beautiful’ confirms the idea that fat is bad,” they say.“My boyfriend is shy about not being bigger muscularly, but how can I reassure him that that’s exactly my type without confirming his insecurities?” they say....more
It's normal to have a perceived number that we all think that we should be. It's what we want to see when we step on the scale. Typically those thoughts will come from a number that is calculated telling us that in order to be "healthy" there is a specific weight that determines that.
Take your BMI (Body Mass Index), for instance, which is simply a calculation of your height and weight which tells you if you're in the "healthy" range.
For the majority of my disordered eating days I was considered "healthy" therefore there wasn't a push for me to make any changes. Half of me was relieved that could continue living the controlled life I was, but the other half was crying for help.