Are Labels Such as "Plus-Size" & "Curvy" Really Necessary?

When there was 70 pounds more of me several years ago, two things that really got my goat (in addition to the vending machine being out of Snickers bars) were 1) the names that department stores gave to clothing sections designed for overweight ladies and 2) the location of women's, er, plus-size, fashions. Mostly, the whole name/placement thing was more confusing and somewhat humorous than anything else. For example, the "women's section," while a true term -- we are women after all -- seemed dismissive of the other female shoppers who were browsing the latest styles in the "misses" or "juniors" section. Were they not women, too? Although, I suppose I shouldn't have frowned on the designation. At least there wasn't a sign suspended over new arrivals of sweaters sequined with pumpkins saying, "Obese" or "BMI+," right? ...more
Just treat those labels as a motivational factor for you to lose weight and you'll feel OK with it.more

throwback thursday: "love your body" edition

Throwback Thursday is a bit of a mixed bag for me. I love looking through old photos that remind me of fun times with family and shenanigans with old friends. But the mere exercise of viewing old images of my body from multiple time periods can also be triggering for someone like me, whose weight has fluctuated for most of my adult life. ...more

The day I was murdered

January 30th, 2010.That's the day. The day my life changed forever. The day started out normal.  I showered. Straightened my long blonde hair.  Applied just the right amount of makeup and had an outfit set to impress. Nothing to sexy, I was only 15. Just a nice most likely from JCPenny's outfit. Yes that's the day my life changed forever. Little did I know that my 18 - year-old boyfriend who had spent the last three months showering me with affection and lust had something repulsive in mind for me today.  ...more
What a tragic and painful post. My heart bleeds for you. I hope you get the help that you need ...more

Never be Envious of Someone Else

   There’s this girl I know. She is easily the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met in my life. I’ve known her since we were kids. We hung out a lot. Being around her made me feel like the ugly duckling.I always wished I were as pretty as she was. My confidence took a hit every time we went somewhere together.This went on for years. The boys always fell at her feet. It wasn’t until they realized she wasn’t interested that they noticed me standing there too. No one likes to be chosen second and no one wants to feel less than attractive. ...more

8 Signs that You've Developed Greater Self-Love and Awareness

The problem with developing a stronger sense of ourselves, and self-love, is that it can be rather elusive....more

THINX Underwear Reduces Stigma About Menstruation

The word "menstruation" evokes various sentiments depending on who's doing the talking and who's doing the listening. For most women, the menstrual cycle consists of back pains, cramps and all-encompassing uncomfortability. Products ranging from tampons to pads try to alleviate the stress & pain that women go through to survive this monthly ordeal. Interestingly, the variety of products and the immeasurable number of them seem endless, from Super Tampons to Pads with Wings....more

Open Letter: Lady Outside My Polling Station

Dear Lady at the Polling Place Last Night,Hello.  I am sure you probably don’t remember me, but I remember you.  You were driving a large SUV, going the wrong way in the school’s driveway.  The driveway had already been closed off for people walking in to vote and for the campaign reps to set up stands, as allowed by law, for people going inside.Like this one…...more
lisagd22 -I think in this case, breaking the traffic barrier anyway, it gave her more ...more

Rage Against Aging: Are We Really That Ugly?

I am a recovered bulimic. I still freak the fuck out about my body.  I still feel fat most of the time.  I still can’t eat like a ‘normal’ person and I’m pretty sure I’m hideously disgusting 30% of the time.  This has been going on since my early 20s and has gotten much better with age, but with age comes a whole new set of reasons to freak the fuck out....more

The Dreaded "Talk": Why Talking to Your Kids About S-E-X Inspires Sweaty Armpits and Hives

Would you rather your kid blurted out A) FUCK or B) CLITORIS in the crowded checkout line at Target?  If you answered A, you more than likely have a common condition known as ‘Correct Body-Word Phobia’.  There is a cure so fear not.  Whether they’re 3, 15 or 25, why does talking to kids about sexual health give us fear, anxiety and sweaty armpits? ...more
Really helpful. Using euphemisms and couching language teaches our kids to do the same.  Then ...more

Tummyaches - My Frankentummy Breaks Down

I spent the entire day Tuesday in the emergency room.  I don't so much have a problem with that because, I mean, I did call my PCP complaining of a weird pain in my upper abdomen that felt like something was stuck and I DO have a gastric bypass...so it could have been any number of things....more