Learning to Accept That "No" Is a Complete Sentence

"No" is a complete sentence. That line used to drive me crazy when my kids were little. Remember those days when every request, every plea, every last ounce of your mommy-breath received a "no"? Do you remember their determined little faces, squeezed into such ferociousness, fists in the air? ...more
JanErickson  Jan, your kind words are so appreciated. I hope that I (and other moms) are ...more

An Open Letter to America’s Parents and Teachers: Let’s Make Our Testing Smarter

Here’s a simple question: If your kids had more free time at school, what would you want them to do with it?...more
I am excited to hear what will take place with this new reform from test focused teaching. ...more

Should Schools Ban Ethnic Halloween Costumes?

Every Halloween, there are blog posts and memes begging people not to turn someone else’s culture into a costume. You know… the Indian squaw, the geisha, the terrorist, the pimp or “ho”… really, pretty much anything that portrays an entire group of people in a worn-out stereotype....more
The point is that the costumes provided by the costume shops are not accurate representations of ...more

One SAHM's Not-So-Secret Resentment

Before I had kids and before I was married, I had big, fat dreams of living in New York City and owning my own event planning company. I'd wear high-end clothes that even Olivia Pope would envy. I'd be invited to fancy galas and black tie events. I'd even be honored at a few of them. I had it all mapped out: I'd be married by 27 and I’d have my first and only child at age 32. ...more
Thank you for reading it and truly understanding me.more

5 Reasons Autism Communities Are Divided (and Why That’s Not Necessarily a Bad Thing)

I hate conflict, yet the autism corners of the Internet -- where I spent most of my online time -- are rarely without it. So I get why well-intentioned parents and professionals periodically send out can't we all just get along calls for "autism unity," because I want things to be smoother for all of us, too. ...more
"spent decades being silenced" We're still silenced. Groups like Autism speaks have a megaphone, ...more

5 Key Questions Parents Can Ask Kids to Flag Possible Sexual Abuse

Editor's note: Trigger warning; sexual abuse How do good parents miss child sexual abuse? It is simple: By not asking the right questions. ...more
Excellent post - thank you for this brilliant reminder!more

On Your Mark: The Working Mom's Sprint Triathlon

My husband participated in a sprint triathlon last month. It's really quite remarkable considering the training and skills needed to be able to move from event to event with speed and stamina. It takes thoughtful preparation and great mental and physical endurance. Last year was his first experience, and we learned how important the transitions were; nearly as important as the race itself. If he gets stuck taking off socks, drying feet or removing a wet suit, that could be the difference between first and third place or beating his personal record or not. ...more

When Protecting Black Boys Is At the Cost of Black Girls

As I'm walking down the street, I witness a young couple getting into a verbal altercation and screaming match. They stop walking as the boy is trying to get the girls attention by holding on to her. As I approach where they are, I see a young girl no older than 17, trying to push the boy off of her as he wraps her up into a big bear hug. While she is squirming to get free of his grip, I realize that he is pushing in on her stomach and yelling that he was going to “kill the baby”. I stop dead in my tracks and ask if everything was okay....more
So, so sad. The nothingness you saw in his eyes will probably get him or someone else hurt ...more

5 Tips for Potty Training ANY Kid

Potty training a toddler is hard. Potty training a toddler on the spectrum is damn near impossible! It took two days to potty train our neuro-typical daughter, four years to potty train our low-functioning 9-year-old son, and we're going on one and a half years with our moderate-functioning son, Max. ...more
JennyBarton Our daughter literally took 2 days. We thought we had it made! Then our autie boys ...more

Real Talk: 10 Things You Need to Know About Parenting a Teenager

I don't want to scare anyone yet to reach this wonderful phase of childhood or rein doom and gloom on the world of being the proud owner of a teenager, but I think that it's time there was some honesty between us, we're friends right? Okay, some of you I've never met and the odds are that we never will, but just by the sheer notion that you're reading this, I'm rewarding you by sharing a little known secret that other parents of teenagers have been keeping from you. ...more
Yes, yes and yes to all of the above! Can you tell I have two teenage boys? ;)more