I Surprised Myself When I Became an Extended Breastfeeder

When I was pregnant with our first daughter, I knew I wanted to nurse. Like many moms, I chose one year as my goal. In retrospect it seems somewhat arbitrary, but that's the number you always hear, so that's where I placed a big red X in my mental calendar. Fortunately, breastfeeding came easy to us, and I relished the bonding aspect of it tremendously. Shortly after her first birthday, we started introducing cow's milk—again, because that's what you do, right?—and within a month, she was pretty much fully weaned....more
People gave me a lot of sideways looks when they found out how long I nursed.  My first child, ...more

On Scoliosis and Unfunny Flashbacks to 'Sixteen Candles'

I sit and watch as Fashionista tries out a tumbling class. She is the type who would like to be on the Pom Squad when she gets to seventh grade and would like to perfect her cartwheels. I secretly sneer at cheerleaders. Glorified strippers, I call them. To be honest, this is mostly due to the fact that my husband dated a Dallas Cowboy cheerleader years before I met him. But I pretend it is purely out of feminist sentiment. ...more
Mom on the Dark Side: I'm 53 years old and have lumbar scoliosis. It was diagnosed when I was 14 ...more

No Candy for Halloween? That's Crazy Talk!

First of all, what? An apple? A toy? Gluten-free bar? A box of raisins? Before you beat me with your broomstick, let me tell you that I understand. I respect and appreciate all the reasons why we need to be politically correct, understand our differences, know that not everyone says trick or treat (but still goes trick-or-treating), and that some of us are allergic, trying to live healthy, trying to be gluten-free. ...more
Very well said, we need to put an end to the food shaming and respect others choices.more

Why Did Buying Groceries Online Make Me Feel So Guilty?

A few weeks ago, I ordered my groceries online and had them delivered. It felt like an extravagance—a 1 percent kind of luxury that I shouldn't be able to indulge. But a friend of mine, who is a working mom, told me to do it. I balked that it would be more expensive. "It isn't," she insisted. "You can shop the sales, and because you stick to your list, you don't spend as much on impulse buys." The nominal delivery fee was waived if you got up to $100. I always get up to $100, even when I shop at discount stores. So, I tried it. Here's what happened....more
Nope. If you look at it rationally and logically, paying for any service is about the value (in ...more

I Am Proud (and a Bit Jealous) of My Adult Daughter

When I was 25, my life was a mess. I had left a brief mistake of a marriage, moved in with my father and his girlfriend, went back to a job I had left a year before and started over again. Shortly after, my grandfather died....more

My Advice to My Sons About School Shootings 

I never again want to feel like I have to sit my boys down and tell them what to do if someone starts shooting. I've done it at least three times already. We were in the car yesterday on our way to see a movie screening at The Grove, a popular outdoor mall in Los Angeles. On the radio, we heard an account of the mayhem at Umpqua Community College in Roseburg, Ore., where Chris Harper Mercer, 26, killed and injured more than a dozen people in the latest mass shooting in the U.S. The young man on the radio had been in a classroom near the shooting....more
This is it, exactly: "What I really worry about is that it will be so commonplace that we won't ...more

We're Fighting Over the Kids' Screen Time. Is There an App For That?

Dear Mouthy Housewives, My wife and I totally disagree about our kids and screen time. She is the Tough Mom, and basically thinks the iPad will eventually melt their brains. I’m the Relaxed Mom (a.k.a. I like my iPad!), and I think it’s totally fine -- and even educational --for the kids to Minecraft and iPad to their hearts' delight. How can we find a happy medium? Signed, Steve Jobs’ Black Turtleneck ...more

Grieving My Father in the Excruciating In-Between

"I love you." "I love you too." Last Sunday, when my dad and I had our last good visit, we said these words. As I crossed the parking lot to my car, I realized that he hadn't said what he usually says when one of us is leaving after a visit: "Be careful. I don't have any extra children." ...more
I haven't been in this situation, and I'm not sure that I could articulate as well as you have, ...more

Breastfeeding: Been There, Done That, Not Doing It Again!

I consider myself intelligent and sufficiently educated. I know the laundry list of stated benefits to breastfeeding. I know it's the best. But, I don't want to do it. I'm scared. ...more
FibreJunkyThank you for the encouragement.  I still teeter back and forth between what I want to ...more

How I'm Trying to Bully-Proof My Daughters

My girls love to climb the trees at their school. As soon as they see me at dismissal, they hand off their backpacks and run away with their friends, sometimes stopping to see me for a quick chat or snack. Most often they're monkeying up the handful of trees lining the school's playground. ...more
We have dealt with bullying situations on and off throughout our educational experience.  I'm ...more