Society peculiarly frowns upon loving yourself too much, being unduly confident, and being your own PR agent (e.g. Kanye, Charlie Sheen). Be confident, but not too confident; be proud of what you do, but don’t be prideful; praise others, but be sure not to praise yourself. What exactly is the problem we have with acknowledging one’s awesomeness?...more
Hi all - BlogHer newbie Enn here. I considered waiting until I had the absolute perfect words for my first BlogHer post. But then I looked at the available topics and realized that my blog niche doesn't fall into any of those categories. Thus this post.I write about concealed carrying of firearms. Sounds deep, filled with political angst, and totally about men doesn't it? It's not. At least not for me. I keep it simple...and girly!...more
Some people are downright gleeful that the Duggars’ aren’t so perfect and are celebrating their "fall from grace." Did I miss something? We are talking about a young man who molested young girls, right? Who cares how it makes his family look? What about his victims?
Reports that Josh Duggar molested underage girls (including some of his sisters) are all over the interwebs today, which is triggering the hell out of me. All I want to say is that the gleeful schadenfreude about his downfall is gross and insensitive to the victims, but I understand the impulse. As Tim Molly said, “I’m trying not to delight in his downfall....more
The New York Public Library recently published a list of Asian-Pacific American Heritage Picks for Adults, and I was dismayed to find geishas and shoguns but so few titles that actually help raise awareness of the lived experiences of Asians in the United States, which is the goal of this designated month Some books were written by Asian authors, but not really about the context of being in America. And yet others were just problematic. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, really?...more
Maggie Gyllenhaal on Hollywood sexism/ageism: “I was told 37 is ‘too old’ for a 55-year-old love interest.” Maggie Gyllenhaal: Old as f**k. (Photograph: Chris Pizzello/AP) Trolls spread hate against feminist blogger using Twitter’s Promoted Tweets ad system. The Asian Women Coalition Ending Prostitution (AWCEP) posts an open letter to rabble.ca...more
Criminals use six basic principles of Influence to steal. In this post we will discuss the first 3. The ability to influence boils down to science. By applying some science, anyone can learn to be more influential. It’s easy to influence sheep and cattle. It’s a bit more complicated to influence people. But many people can be influenced as easy as a cow. Criminals understand this the same way sales people do. The derivative of “confidence” is con. All influence in some way is designed to gain your confidence and in some cases to trick you. That’s where “confidence trick” comes from....more
They hate me because of the color of my skin Sounds superficial but that’s where it begins My skin indicates that I want what they actually covet They think I see their actions and actually love it So funny that my skin in their eyes indicates I’m worthless And that no matter how hard I work I still deserve less My skin is the first thing they see and then it’s...she’s a lady They’r...more