The media needs to stop calling victims of rape and sexual assault "accusers''. It implies that there is no victim, but rather a shrill, angry, mean accuser who is victimizing the rapist. It is not done with any other crime. If you are robbed, killed, kidnapped or pick pocketed - you are a victim. Why is a rape victim an accuser? Why is the universally accepted legal language changed? In fact, it is the people of a state that accuses the defendant on behalf of the victim....more
I have always been one to review both sides of every story, and review as much information as possible, before deciding what I believe to be true. These days, the media is so filled with biased reporting that I am surprised anyone feels they are getting the "truth". Most recently I have realized this by flipping through various news stations reporting on the death of Michael Brown. Wedding rings, Image Credit: Shutterstock ...more
[Update 12/12/2014: The Daily Mail reports that the one of the men beaten by Mark Wahlberg, Johnny Trihn says he was blinded in one eye while fighting in the Vietnam War and now would like to see Wahlberg get a pardon. --Grace]
Pardon me, Mark Wahlberg?
At the Massachusetts Conference for Women last week, former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton (whom I met backstage!) said something that really resonated for me, and I suspect for many of the mogul, mom and maids I’ve met in the last year. Clinton said, “Sometimes we women focus too much on our deficits.” Ain’t it the truth?...more
Trying to find the perfect gift is like trying to find skyscraper heels that won't hurt your feet. In other words, it can feel next to impossible. Wearable tech gifts can solve the "What do I buy" dilemma easily.
What was once science fiction or wishful thinking is now reality! Now you can buy a necklace can double as a workout tracker, a wristband that turns a banana into a light saber, earmuffs that let you listen to music, and you can even charge your phone via your purse.
The Sunday of Thanksgiving weekend, some friends and I decided to visit Ferguson, Missouri, which has seen more than its share of attention, mostly negative, since the Michael Brown shooting last August 9. My friends and I wanted to support the community and its businesses by visiting and spending time and money there.I have lived most of my life in the St. Louis area....more
I’m big, I’m black, and I’ve become well aware of how those things shape the way people see me, what they assume about me, and how they treat me.
On Being Big
My first vivid memories of body shame came in fourth grade. At nine, I was tall and chubby. Kids were constantly jumping on me for piggyback rides without permission. I guess they assumed I could handle their weight. They thought it was fun. I hated it.
I am a feminist (a feisty one) and a pole dancer (a sassy one). I don't consider these aspects of self to be in conflict. For the sake of context, I am by no stretch a feminist scholar. Feminism and pole dance have many different interpretations and mean different things to different people. I discuss pole dance from a recreational perspective as a student and instructor. I neither represent nor disparage the exotic industry but I also don't have enough information to comment on it. That being said, pole dance is not exclusive to the domain of the gentleman's club....more
Something interesting has been happening on Twitter. In light of the recent acquittals of white police officers in the deaths of black men, there have been quite a few online discussions about the role of race plays in how the law is enforced. The hashtag #CrimingWhileWhite has been trending, along with #AliveWhileBlack....more
There’s an old newsroom adage that if you want to get a feel for what people are really thinking about current events, you need to go to the barbershop. Early Wednesday, a New York City grand jury announced its decision not to indict police officer Daniel Pantaleo in the July death of Eric Garner, an unarmed black man who was killed after police attempted to arrest him for selling untaxed cigarettes on the sidewalk.