God Bless My Southern Heart: Reflecting on Charleston

I really didn’t want to write this post.  I don’t like to get political here, and I’m sure some of you will disagree with my honest and heartfelt opinion, but here it is…God bless my Southern heartWith a blog called For the Love of Dixie (and a mother named Dixie), I kind of feel like I should weigh in on the Confederate battle flag controversy.  My Southern heart has been so conflicted over that stupid flag, trying to wrap my brain around the fact that a crazy person killed 9 people and now, somehow, a flag is to blame....more

Generation after generation

I was reading this post by my friend, Sandy, the other day entitled Will Hate Win? It got me thinking about how each generation faces something that makes a parent cringe with fear. When I watch the news I wonder how is this the world I am raising my child in?...more

"It's Not Fair:" Being a Working-Class Mama with Middle-Class Kids

"It's not fair." The first words out of my seven-year old's mouth after leaving a birthday party turned barbecue at the home of one of her classmates. She had a great time, and her brother too as he tagged along for the party. I sort of knew what she meant when she said those words, but I wanted to be sure. "What's not fair?"Although she sat in the backseat as I was driving out of the house's circular rocky driveway, I could practically feel her eyes as they narrowed in annoyance. "You know, this house." "Well, what about the house?" "It's so big. It's not fair."...more

My Friend Thinks I'm A Racist

I have a white friend. His name is Kevin. He thinks I am a racist.You see, he’s got it in his head that I think white people discriminate against me because of my skin color, especially when I’m out with him.He thinks I make it all up in my head. The way everyone stares at us, their looks saying “She must need help paying her bills”, or “They must be dating because she has bad credit”....more

When You Look at Me You Don’t See Color – Your Loss!

Often when I talk to people about race they say, "When I look at you I don't see color." My response to them is always the same. Aloud I say, "That is your loss, my color is beautiful." To myself I say, "You are either unobservant or a liar." ...more

INTERVIEW: The Sisters Are Alright' According to Tamara Winfrey Harris' New Book

Tamara Winfrey Harris, whom many BlogHers may recognize from her blog What Tami Said, has a new book called The Sisters Are Alright: Changing the Broken Narrative of Black Women in America....more

Please Keep Talking About Charleston

In the week that my mother passed away, my inbox was flooded with emails of support and friendship. My community texted me, some even called, to tell me they were there for me and that I could count on them for anything I needed. It meant more than I can say to feel the support of people around me who stood by me, even if they had no experience with the pain of my loss....more

Beyond Xenophobia: A Look At the Dominican Republic

 The Dominican Republic, a country made up of wondrous beaches, breathtaking mountain backdrops, a sweltering desert and extraordinary architecture with many lavish European-owned resorts is in the middle of a clusterfuck. You read it correctly. A CLUSTERFUCK!...more

After the Flag Comes Down, Then What?

Let's get one thing straight up front: it's time for the flag to come down. It's divisive, it's hurtful, and whatever you or I or anyone might have meant by keeping or displaying it just doesn't matter now that the Dylann Roofs of this world have chosen it as their banner. Jan 21, 2008 - Columbia, South Carolina, U.S. - The Confederate Battle Flag flies on the grounds of the South Carolina State House (Credit Image: © Erik Lesser/ZUMA Press)...more
Parthenia Queen All great points.  We have a lot of hard work to do.more