I finished reading Eleanor & Park and I can't stop obsessing over why it bothers me so much.Except my daughter told me this weekend that she didn't want to be part brown or brown anymore. She wants to be all white. Cue my deflating heart and utter internal devastation. I hardly knew how to respond and decided to let it be for now until I could figure that out. I always try to put a positive spin on color for them, given how our culture persistently and vehemently villifies and uglifies anything dark. ...more
I am getting ready to turn 30, and I'm in love. I have a beautiful son, a host of great friends, a wonderful man, and a growing career as a writer that I never would have dreamed of. As the day draws nearer, I have discovered for the first time in my life, I can unapologetically declare that I am in love with all of me....more
When Officer Brian Encinia told her to put her cigarette, Sandra Bland refused. When she was told to exit her car, again, she refused. The traffic stop was about to wind down, the officer had already written a warning ticket, and one has to wonder, if she’d put the cigarette out, what would the rest of the story had been? ...more
Holding my phone in my hand as I completed the last of my voice text, I saw the flashing lights of the police car directly behind me.“Motherf***er”, I muttered as I replaced my phone on the hands-free driving cradle and proceeded to pull over, turning on to a side street from the busy main road and flipping on my hazard lights.As I reached in to my wallet for my driver’s license, with my phone blowing up with text messages, I thought to myself, “I’ll wait until he gets here to get my insurance card from the glove box”....more
A community art project that was too controversial for New York City has found a home in Phoenix, Arizona.The mural was nearly finished when I stopped by last week. Half a dozen artists were there painting or standing back to Instagram the process - which, really, is also part of spreading a message. In fact, that's how I heard about the piece....more
I was scrolling through my Facebook feed this morning seeking relief from Deflate-gate, debates about whose lives really matter, the political circus that has become the race for the White House, exchanges between Cosby lawyers and accusers, the economic fall of Greece and the other headlines of the day, only to come across this–a post from a friend saying she just had a conversation about the new Fantastic Four movie with someone who believes “it’s not realistic for the Human Torch to be Black”....more
The underlying consensus in this country seems to be if ANY person knows their Constitutional Rights then he or she has nothing to fear when police interaction is involved. Clearly, that’s BULLSHIT. We have seen for at least one century that this privilege only exists for certain people....more
To my Little Magician: We’ll read this together when you’re old enough to understand.
Motherhood has been an incredible adventure, but I have always been haunted by the guilt of bringing you into this world -- a world that has not been very kind to little Black girls who grow into Black women.