Spring is here, which means you're making a mad dash to clear cluttered closets and darkened corners of your home of dust, debris, and unwanted objects. We often take the time to clear our physical spaces of things that have become stale and dull during these months of rejuvenation, but in this year of shifting energy, why not make a pledge to do some spring cleaning of your sex life as well!?...more
There is absolutely no way to make a man commit to a relationship to you, at least not any relationship that you actually want and in which you will be happy. The best part of being in a relationship is knowing that you're connected to someone who chose to be with you, of his/her own free will and with no reluctant sense of obligation. Who wants to be with someone who needs to be coerced or dragged along unwillingly?...more
My favorite doll when I was in second grade was a soft-featured, frizzy-bunned, slightly plump version of Barbie. (She was less expensive than an actual Barbie because my mother saved money every way she could, and my toys were often cheaper versions of popular playthings.)...more
I just discovered the television show Scandal on Netflix.
Yes, I know that I’m coming (pun intended) to the Oliva Pope/President Fitzgerald party waaaaaay late. But I’ve come to the party with a vengeance. I’ve managed to watch all 40+ episodes that have aired to date in the last six weeks.
Kirsten Dunst recently got blasted for some comments she made about gender roles and just because someone doesn't agree with her, does not mean Kirsten is "kind of dumb about it." But according to Erin Gloria Ryan in Jezebel, Kirsten is indeed "kind of dumb about it" since she apparently favors traditional male and female roles within a relationship. ...more
We’ve all heard the conventional wisdom about marriages, that newlyweds embark upon a “honeymoon phase” during the very first year. When I was married, however, I think that phase lasted one or two months and then the serious challenges kicked in. This was something I was prepared for because before getting married, I talked to my married friends about their relationships. The vast majority of them said that the first year was the most challenging....more
A lot of people see their senior years as a time to just take care of grandchildren, play Bingo, do aquarobics, and reflect on memories. But what does this mean for your body and mind? Most people will reach the age of retirement looking forward to having all the time in the world to do what they please. Some spend time doing what they always dreamed with, only to find that after a short period of time they are bored. Then, they don’t know what to do and their health starts to decline....more
I'm queer.It's an ongoing conversation with myself. As I learn more about the woman I am-- likes, dislikes, the kinds of relationships I want, and the politics I embody-- the clearer my self-portrait becomes. My queerness is not the sole factor through which I am defined or viewed, of course; it is so deeply ingrained in who i am but it is not some "difference", the way a lot of straight (and queer) ppl view being not hetero....more
Romantic love comes in many forms and naturally goes through different phases.Your relationship may have started off bursting with passion and now be feeling a little drab. Ebbs and flows are a part of life, and are no exception when it comes to the heart.However, are you fully embracing the one you’re with and offering your best self?...more
Sometimes being single friggin' sucks. Before you roll your eyes at me, let me also state that if you are a regular reader of my blog you know that I in no way feel you need a man to complete you, be happy, or live a fulfilled life. I have been happily single for over four years now and have written over 50 blog post demonstrating that.With that being said, there are definitely times when being single does, in fact, suck! ...more