My partner and I have been together for 6 years now and I have been actively suppressing my sexuality for about as long. Let me explain. In my single, sexy, and free days of college, I kept my feelings about sex light and carefree. I did it when I wanted to and with whom I wanted to. I liked it that way. I never believed sex was inherently intimate or emotional. Some called me fast, I called me fun....more
My name is Rachel. I am 25 and a female, and those two small facts come as a shock to the majority of my co-workers. My predecessor was a middle-aged male, the other people in my industry are mainly male and the majority of my co-workers are males. I manage employees, most of which are male, and I am managed by males. I can faintly hear my feminist sisters in the background cheering for me, and I usually wear these facts like a badge of honor on my chest. I am proud of this, but if we are being honest, it is no walk in the park....more
And why not the clitoris? A loyal reader steered me toward Sophia Wallace's "cliteracy" art, and I thought, what if, instead of a tiny pocket penis, women carried a tiny clitoris around -- not a real one, you understand, because we already do carry a real one around....more
Wow... there was an outpouring of emails sent to me. Women who wanted to share their story. Men who wanted to share their story. Some were victims, and others were admitting fault- a total stranger apologized to me because he didn't know her name. "She was passed out," he wrote. "She didn't say no but she didn't say yes either. She didn't really say much." ...more
Guess what "BRDTTT" stands for? You won't get it, so I'll tell you. Bring Your Dick to the Table. Apparently the artist—and I use that term loosely—believes women can keep these expensive little pet cocks in their pockets to grab on to when they lose confidence in, for example, themselves in a business situation with men. A whole inch and a half of penile self-confidence right in the palm of our small, feminine hands....more
Civil rights activist Yuri Kochiyama passed away over the weekend at the age of 93. But sadly, outside of the Asian American and Black Power activism communities, she is not well known. You may recognize Kochiyama as the woman in the cat-eye glasses next to Malcolm X after he was fatally shotin 1965.
Dear "Nice Guy",
Hi! Yes, I see you there. You've made a point of being around me, and like lots of nice guys I've known through the years, you're interested in being more than just the nice guy who's hanging around me.
Maybe you've watched me dating guys who are, in your opinion, vastly inferior in what they can offer me compared to you. Maybe I've been dumped, heartbroken, even possibly abused by guys like that, and there you are, so nice, so perfect for me if I'd only open my eyes and see it, waiting in the wings for me to notice you. ...more