4 Ways to Get Better Work/Life Balance

Do you have this discussion? The debate about how much time is spent at work versus spent at home? ...more
briannarbell So glad you found it helpful! It doesn't have to be difficult.more

It Isn't A Race!

Life is not a race. It is not a competition.  The one who dies with the most friends, the prettiest home, the best figure, or the perfect marriage does not win.  That one who spends their entire life in competition, whether real or self-imposed, simply misses life.   I, personally, am an extremely non-competitive person.  Non-competitive to the point that I even avoid most board games as seeing people's ruthlessness and competitive sides truly horrifies me....more

Journey to the Center of Commencement

The word for today is defeated. It's the best way to describe my feelings as of late. In the past couple of weeks I have had to come to terms with the deterioration of my health. Multiple sclerosis is a bitch of a disease. Just the other day, I witnessed a car accident right in the parking lot of the local supermarket. Some guy was on his phone, and didn't see the truck attempting to pass him as he was backing out. The entire time, I just wanted to yell out to both drivers, to stop them from the impending accident. But I was powerless to stop it, and the inevitable happened....more

Mourning Nepal


Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.-- Anne Roiphe

It's the anniversary of my father's death (it's been 12yrs). The sting of how it impacted my family and the  question of what if he was still alive still linger..This year I realized this day is just a reminder of my family's demise.Secondary losses that's what they are called.These are losses that have occurred as a result of the death.On some level I knew my family wouldn't survive however  the amount of damage which followed was catastrophic....more

Three Strokes to One: Social Situations

One of the metaphors that my diagnosing psychologist used to illustrate the exhaustion of being autistic in an allistic (that is, non-autistic) world is about paddling down a river. All of the neurotypical people are sitting in their kayaks paddling along with the current, but the autistic person is paddling through a current that runs in the other direction. For every one stroke the other kayakers paddle, the autistic kayaker has to paddle three strokes just to keep up....more

Your Inner Detective

The biggest obstacle to most of my clients’ healing and recovery is their inability to understand and accept their feelings, and the emotional and behavioral clues that indicate where the problems lie. Most of us learn early that being too open with our feelings and thoughts is dangerous. It can lead to punishment, censure, ridicule, or hurt feelings. In some families, being open and honest about your feelings is like giving other family members ammunition to use against you....more

Have it All? Negative

I was thinking about the commentary:Women can have it all....marriage/kids/career.ALL.  (Not sure I understand the "all" statement)Not really....I mean, you can "have" it.  Yes.But can you manage it?Me?  I don't see me managing it all well.  All aspects.....even good most of the time.Now, I've dropped the "marriage" qualifier.  That's honestly not a huge change in the "have it all" discussion.  It's hard.  Period.  And I appreciate those of you that it isn't hard to do it all.  ...more

Happy Monday!

Your schedule might be a little or a lot different than mine, but you probably also have stress, a crazy schedule and use the excuse that you don't have enough time to eat well. I understand all of that. But know that you can lose weight without dieting, no matter what walk of life you are coming from. I ended up completing AdvoCare's 24 day challenge and for the first time in my life, I feel some sort of consistency starting to form with my weight loss. I'm in charge. I'm not a doctor, I'm not a nutritionist and most importantly, I'm not in charge of anyone but myself....more

Woman to Woman

I have noticed a beautiful occurrence on Facebook, at least among my friends, of women supporting women. Whether through a personal crisis or just making it through the day, I see my friends sharing love and strength on a daily basis. Granted, the majority of my friends are of an older generation.  The words THOT, skank, and more are not part of our daily vocabulary.  And the "C" word?...more