My Hair Is a Story. I Kept the Part About the Girl with a Backbone.

Somewhere around 2009, I decided to grow my hair out. To be 100% honest, as I always am on this blog, I decided to grow my hair because I thought I would be getting married in the next few years. Boy, did I miss the mark on that one (but found my Mark three years later ... wow, that was a cheesy pun)....more
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It Turns Out Joel the Interior Designer Wasn’t An Interior Designer OR Named Joel

Let’s take a moment to discuss pathological liars. I have already ranted about my ex-boyfriend, Joey, making up an entire vacation so that he didn’t have to hang out with me. And now you’ll find out about Joel…And, by the way, I feel okay using that name — because it’s technically not his name and I don’t think you can get angry at someone for using your real fake name.Joel, a very fashionable, good looking guy whom I met in a bar,  introduced himself as an Interior Designer.  I was impressed with that (never having met an interior designer before). We spoke for a few minutes near the coat check, and exchanged numbers....more

Date Idea: Trapeze Lesson

Two weekends ago, Stephen and I took a trapeze lesson.I had signed us up earlier this year - a $40 Groupon, so why not?Months passed, and we finally found ourselves at the the lake front starring at a steep ladder, a couple swinging bars, and a catching net.We laughed. What the hell are we doing? Yet we parked the car....more

Taste in Men: 30:30 Somethings

When we discuss the beauty of relationships, we typically describe them in terms of good or bad. But as a woman who’s dated many men and married none, how about considering them in the range of taste buds? That's what I ponder in this Taste in Men post....more

Online Dating Horror Story #3: Thunder and Lightning

Years ago, I met a man from an online dating site at a fast-food restaurant for a Coke. It turned out to be me listening to an hour-and-a-half monologue. (That happens a lot and I’m too polite — or dumb — to just get up and leave....more

Are You Dating Empty Calories?

It’s that time of year again. Many of us are starting to watch those calories a little more closely, the gym clothes are getting more wear, and swimsuit shopping is hovering over us like a big ol’ storm cloud. A cookie is no longer just a cookie-- it is an evil tool of seduction aimed at keeping us from fitting into our favorite sundresses. But empty calories can show up in other areas of our lives that have nothing to do with baked goods....more
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There is always a reason for everything

Today I saw the movie "The Fault in Our Stars"...a movie I've been wanting to see for awhile now. I don't know if this thought came to my mind solely because of the movie or because of a combo of the movie and my current situation. In either case it made me think about the idea of everything happens for a reason and if logic can ever be involved. Logic is something that is good to have especially in certain situations. Logic also makes things with romance worse especially for women....more
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Be The Boyfriend You Wish You Had

Yes, you read the title correctly. It was a toss up between the one I chose and “Treat Yourself The Way You Wanted To Be Treated.” I don’t know how guys are, but when girls get together, all we do is bitch about our boyfriends. What they do wrong, why they can’t do anything right, what stupid ass thing they said, what stupid ass thing they did, etc, etc.We could literally go on all day long. The ranting and raving usually ends with an end-of-the-night “I don’t want you to get the wrong idea because he really is a great guy” or “But I really do love him” — to which we always reply, “You don’t have to say that. I know he’s a good guy and, if you didn’t love him, you wouldn’t be with him.” Sometimes I like to throw in “because he’s such a dumbass that why would you be with him if you didn’t love the idiot?”.Anyway, after years upon years of complaining about our boyfriends’ juvenile stupidity, my friends and I have decided to be the boyfriend that we wish we had. It’s pretty much the same concept as the Destiny’s Child’s Independent Women song. You can love him as much as you want, but don’t let his actions make you feel bad anymore....more

I Was Told I Wasn't "Pretty" On A First Date

I can honestly say that I have been on some of the worst dates in the history of the world.  And, of course, I totally checked the history of the world before I made that claim to fame.  Today, I’m going to share one of my more treasured memories with you. You may want to sit down for this one.  Scratch that.  Grab your laptop, find a friggin’ bed and lay down.  Yeah, it’s that bad....more
Seriously - nope. Girl - you have issues.more