Mixed Emotions

My sunny days aren’t always sunny—there’s a cloud overhead.  My joyful days aren’t always joyous—there a sadness that’s felt. My loving days aren’t always loving—there is anger in my heart.  My easy days aren’t always easy—life makes them hard.  My beautiful days aren’t always beautiful—there is ugliness that’s real.  My healthy days aren’t always healthy—there’s a sickness I feel.  My stable days aren’t always stable—there’s turmoil within.  My perfect days aren’t always perfect—there are flaws that come in....more

The Language of Love

What is your language of love? How do you communicate love to your partner? My boyfriend and I are trying to figure out the answer to that question right now. I’ve always thought I liked to receive love through words of affirmation—I like to hear "I love you" and like to hear sweet things. However, because of the nature of our relationship, love is only being expressed through words and I’m now feeling as if I want to receive love in other ways as well. ...more


When relationships end it's important for both parties to have closure.  While this isn't exactly breaking news when you've been seeing someone for quite some time and then call it quits, remember that closure is also important after just one or two dates.  Read more http://www.sheshouldhaveit.com Rachael R. Lorenz She Should have It http://www.sheshouldhaveit.com...more

Watching a Relationship Blossom Online - tmi?

Have you had the pleasure of watching a relationship blossom online via social media (facebook)? I can't help but be totally annoyed by the over-sharing going on.  Let me explain:...more

too much. But in person it does. Interestingly, I think it is a tone and knowing the person that ...more


After a night away from the kids with my husband Ken, I woke up the other morning far from home with a sex hangover.  For those of you not familiar with this term, let me explain:Like in the same way one experiences the delayed aftereffects of drinking too much alcohol in a relatively short period of time; a woman can feel the delayed aftereffects of having too much sex in one night.  Most women experience this sex hangover in their early days of "doing it."  Like in college when our male partner's refractory period was more like 5 minutes instead ...more

Relationships are so Hard

I was reading a friend's facebook status.  She posted "Relationships are so hard."   It's almost a no brainer to me as to why.  She sort of signed up for hard.  She is a 20 something who has shouldered the burden of being the main provider for herself and her much older boyfriend.  Not only can her boyfriend not fully take care of himself he is also unable to take care of his daughter so guess who supports her too?...more

It is so nice to read about someone who has figured out how to be in a healthy relationship ...more

Did He Cheat?

I was in a very long line at Whole Foods, having stopped in after work to pick up what would pass for dinner. The “express” line was the longest line I’ve ever seen in my entire life, so I got in the regular line even though I only had a couple of things. A few minutes in, I heard a deep voice behind me: “It must be my lucky day to stand in line behind the woman who can rock those boots”. It was a little cheesy but when I turned around I liked the way he looked, I forgave him. ...more
I would be extremely upset if my husband did that. Because what he did was ask another woman on ...more



Dipping My Toe into Online Dating

On a sunny winter day, a new friend came over and we worked in the yard. As we excavated three months' worth of weeds, we talked about relationship stuff and she asked questions that unearthed some hibernating assumptions inside me. ...more
Don't give up on online dating!  I met my husband online and we were married 12 weeks later.  ...more

New Relationship Plans From Sprint

“Well, I mean, how is he your boyfriend if you live in Seattle and he lives in California, anyway?”  I thought about whether or not to bother explaining this to him. He had not even been able to answer my simple question about canceling my Sprint contract, I was thinking the nuances of love might be a tad complicated for him.  “Are you getting married?...more