Be The Boyfriend You Wish You Had

Yes, you read the title correctly. It was a toss up between the one I chose and “Treat Yourself The Way You Wanted To Be Treated.” I don’t know how guys are, but when girls get together, all we do is bitch about our boyfriends. What they do wrong, why they can’t do anything right, what stupid ass thing they said, what stupid ass thing they did, etc, etc.We could literally go on all day long. The ranting and raving usually ends with an end-of-the-night “I don’t want you to get the wrong idea because he really is a great guy” or “But I really do love him” — to which we always reply, “You don’t have to say that. I know he’s a good guy and, if you didn’t love him, you wouldn’t be with him.” Sometimes I like to throw in “because he’s such a dumbass that why would you be with him if you didn’t love the idiot?”.Anyway, after years upon years of complaining about our boyfriends’ juvenile stupidity, my friends and I have decided to be the boyfriend that we wish we had. It’s pretty much the same concept as the Destiny’s Child’s Independent Women song. You can love him as much as you want, but don’t let his actions make you feel bad anymore....more

I Was Told I Wasn't "Pretty" On A First Date

I can honestly say that I have been on some of the worst dates in the history of the world.  And, of course, I totally checked the history of the world before I made that claim to fame.  Today, I’m going to share one of my more treasured memories with you. You may want to sit down for this one.  Scratch that.  Grab your laptop, find a friggin’ bed and lay down.  Yeah, it’s that bad....more
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Online Dating Horror Story #2: Way Too Hairy

One of my most memorable – and bizarre – online dating stories was also one of my first attempts to meet a nice man after my divorce....more

Secrets to Attracting Men Without Clothes!

So... It's summer time.Is it bikini time?What are you wearing?Do you know what the youth are wearing? From talking to other women this summer about the fashion trends they're putting on to turn a few heads...What I discovered was shocking!More clevage.More see-through clothing.Brighter colors.And even more suggestion.But is that what men really want?It just gets them horny right?If you're struggling to connect with men, the reason isn't in fashion.Don't chase the fashion fads....more

Why Are You Lonesome Tonight?

How many kinds of lonely do you think exist in the world? I’ve never actually asked myself before…it just popped up right now because I suddenly Susan wanted to address how lonely I was last year before I decided to go back online....more
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Why Are You Still Single? Math

Why are you still single?“Imagine my surprise” is my first response to this seemingly innocent but breathtakingly rude question. I say ‘first’ because I’ve learned to keep an escalation list of answers. Despite unwavering hope that a wry reply will end the questioning, 9 out of 10 times, the inquisitioner chuckles, and follows up.“No, really, why?”...more

The Single's Person Criteria List

So you are single and have this wonderful and very detailed list of the qualities, attributes and looks you want in your future partner.  Well aren’t you organized…and still Single!  As matchmakers, we often hear a laundry list of the “I wants” and “I needs” of our single clients.  After we finish going over their lists we ask them to cross off 3-4 of the items that they could actually live without.  At this point they are staring at us like we are from Mars but they begrudgingly do as requested.  Examples of the items that usually go are the exact height requiremen...more

While On The Train: To Approach Or Not To Approach, That Is The Question

My friend Joe and I were discussing train flirting the other day. He had seen a really pretty girl on his way to work, and didn’t know if it was appropriate to say something to her....more

This Ramadan, I'm Fasting With My Muslim Boyfriend

We "met" on Twitter, but we MET during Ramadan....more
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