Helen Gurley Brown turned 90 this past February 18. I discovered her when I was a teenager and became an instant fan. She was a woman ahead of her time; I hadn't heard another woman with her message. I was certainly familiar with (and appreciative of) feminists who were trying to empower us, but Helen was coming at it from a whole 'nother angle: it's okay for a woman to be single, and really ok for her to have and enjoy sex, to have fun, to have a full life. I didn't know anybody else who was saying this quite that way. ...more
A crowd of gray-haired parents of single adults negotiates with one another along a stretch of Beijing’s Zhongshan Park. These confabs occur on a strip of pavement lined on one side with rainbows of tulips and, on the other side, with the moat of the Forbidden City.A woman, whose son was born in 1982, asks whether I have a daughter. Yes, I tell her, one that is the same age as her son. But then she decides she cannot consider a match, because her son isn’t good enough for my family.My Chinese friend tells me it’s because I am Caucasian....more
Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in need of some serious advice, and I hope you can help. I've been in an extremely long distance relationship with someone for the past year and a half off and on. I live in the US, he lives in Central America. I am 6 years older than he is. I'm studying to be a nurse and he unfortunately doesn't have the funds to do anything. When we started dating I can admit that I was a bit guarded because I didn't want to get my feelings hurt and often put him down....more
My boyfriend and I have lived and been together for twelve months. He's a bit older than me and he's at the point in his life where he's ready to settle down, and have kids, etc. After the honey moon phase when we first started dating it got kind of tough and I ended up cheating on him. I broke up with him, using a bullshit excuse as a reason, and moved out. After a few days I realized what a terrible mistake I had made, and went back to him, and he accepted me back into my life....more
I haven't tried online dating. I almost did once but then I started to look at the profile and I panicked. I couldn't think how I'd respond to some of the questions and I was worried that what I would write would be too boring for anyone to be interested in me. Isn't that awful?
Like I always say, he knows... "He's got radar." Within 2 hours of my last blog post on Wordpress (where I mention HIM and his penchant for The Muppet Show), I got a text message from Cristian.(I suspect he likes them better)...more
As you probably know, talking about living alone/being alone/being single is hot right now. It seems that not a day goes by that I don't see or hear this topic being discussed on TV, in newspapers and magazines, and all over the Twitterverse. Sometimes it's discussed in a way that I appreciate: affirming, celebratory even. Still, too many times the tone still borders on "what's wrong with them". (I'm doing my part to change this.) ...more
Dear Dr. Romance: Is it possible to love someone without ever dating them? If so, how can you tell that you are in love? Dear Reader: Yes, it's possible to fall in love without dating. For example, if you have a close friend, classmate, work associate, neighbor or friend of a friend that you have spent time with (without dating) you can become attached. Most of the time, however, loving someone from afar has a strong fantasy component, which can be misleading....more