Ask Butta: I’m Tall And Attractive With A Great Smile! Why Do I Keep Meeting Crazy Men? And, What Do I Do About It?


ASK BUTTA: I'm Cute But Overweight AND Single For Too Long...Please Help Me Step Up My Game!!!

Dear Butta,I'm no dating expert and quite honestly I haven't had much dating experience at all. I'm overweight and have always struggled with self esteem issues. I consider myself an attractive women but I'm rarely approached. I've been single for so long that I automatically assume that guys just aren't interested because of my size, but I often see women who I consider far less attractive than I am, getting some good guys. How can I overcome my self-esteem issues and attract men. This whole situation makes me so uptight that I'm sure that it affects how guys view me. I'm middle-aged and I'm ready to meet my Mr. Right or at least my Mr. Right Now! Please help me to step up my game.Signed,Cute but Single 4 Too Long...more

Deciphering Guy Code: WHY DO MEN LIE?

Why do men lie so much?  At some point every single and dating woman has asked herself this question.   The answer may surprise you.   Why do men lie?  Quite simply...because you can't handle the truth.   Allow me to explain! Ladies...Peep Game! I remember asking one of my Playa Partners why men lie.  I had my own ideas but I wanted to hear his take on things....more

When Broccoli Rabe = Freedom

This has been a fantastic week.  It's my annual pilgrimage to Martha's Vineyard, an island off the coast of Massachusetts. Every year I rent a house with 4-5 Spinsterlicious girlfriends and we beach, eat lobster rolls, drink cocktails at breakfast, and hang out at the club like we're still young and carefree.   ...more

How I Met Your Father; So Not a Love Story

    I really like my husband. He is a little goofy  and can be shy at times, but over all he is a really nice guy. I thought he was a really nice guy when I first met him. No, when I first met him I thought he was a creepy 18 year old, but that was because he had this stupid grin on his face....more

The Boyfriend

  It is  unexpected, this change of situation, this very different life that I now live. Certainly if anyone had suggested that at the age of 48, I would be a divorcee with a boyfriend, I would have laughed my head off with incredulity, wiping tears from my eyes. No, not me, NEVER ! So how exactly does a woman of my age introduce her significant other ?The few times I have been in this position, words have, quite unusually,… failed me....more

The Courtship Phenomena

There's two sides to every story...This is mine ...more

Dear Dr. Romance: Why Is My Ex Still Calling Me?

Dear Dr. Romance:I was dating this guy for about two years. During the time that we were together we had some good times and bad. For one he was cheating on me with another girl then we got back together. During that time we worked hard to make the relationship work then I found out that he was sleeping with someone else. When I found this out, I finally left him alone....more

Finding the Pet Lover of Your Dreams

For the single dog, or cat, owner dating can be rough. You worry, among other things: "Will they like my pet?" "Will my pet like them?" Is their apartment pet-friendly?"Slow down, says pet expert Charlotte Reed, who reminds singles that you need to take a step back and concentrate on what you are doing, or not doing, before freaking out about your pet....more