New Research: Online Dating is a Crapshoot

Online dating is one of the most widely used ways that people search for a relationship today, but does it offer advantages over other methods of meeting new potential partners? Maybe not…A new research study conducted by Northwestern University was just published in the Journal Psychological Science in the Public Interest. The study found that the main advantage of dating Web sites is access to a huge pool of potential partners. But the sites also reduce daters into two-dimensional profiles and often overwhelms them with too many choices....more

I'm Engaged!

This is a guest post from my great friend, my sister from another mother, this is her first blog and I convinced her that its really fun and she'd have a place to store all her memories.She's obviously Kenyan, that's how she's my cousin, but now she lives in the great state of Tennessee. She got engaged a couple of months ago and she has a lot to share. So here it is from the very beginning.I'm so convincing her to start her own blog!  It actually happened. I’m still in shock, and my cheeks hurt from smiling too much! Here’s the deetz…....more

Is Someone Leading You On?

Is your relationship legit or is your partner just leading you on?Sometimes when a relationship starts intentions are good but, over time those feelings may change from active to passive. Or, maybe a partner was hedging their bets all along, wanting to have someone who’s “good for now”, but not interested in you for the long term.  Would you know if this was happening to you in your relationship?...more

1st Key to a Healthy Relationship: Self-Love

If you do not love yourself, you will be looking to ‘get’ that which you feel you are lacking from others and will surely be disappointed.  It is when we are insecure with ourselves that we look for someone else to ‘complete’ us or ‘fill us up’ or ‘make us happy’.  A relationship based on needing another’s attention, admiration or love to feel complete is a recipe for heartbreak. ...more

4 Friends and A Criminal

Earler last week I engaged stage 1 of "Operation Escape Social-Coma" via cooking dinner for my girl-crew of 2 (Tani and Lavinia) and inviting Francesco a cop friend, who recently did me the favour of signing my new passport application as a "guarantor."...more

Do You Have the Guts to Trust?

Is your inability to trust ruining your relationships?Contrary to popular opinion, trust really isn’t something your partner should have to earn. It should be there from the start (unless proven otherwise, of course). That’s because, the key ingredient necessary to trust someone else, is to be able to trust yourself....more

Esoteric zeitgeist and playing a mean pinball

Here is a fitting profile written by yours truly, for one of my "guest stars," based on my most recent experience: Egocentric,  passionate, passive-agressive,  mad-genius with extreme adversion to using telelphones (but owns an iphone), would love to dazzle you with everything profound and despite several proclamations with the full intention to meet-up, will jerk you around for months without setting up said meeting, (or for that matter having a live text-chat, or actually calling you on the phone for a real conversation minus the keyboard), if only to see how long it will take t...more

Plan a Super Date for Super Bowl this Sunday

Unless you have been living under a rock, you know that this Sunday is the big Super Bowl game. The 2011 Super Bowl was the most watched program ever – an estimated 111 million people tuned in – and this year will be no exception. This Sunday when the New York Giants face off against the New England Patriots, why not make a super date out of the Super Bowl?Whether you watch the game with friends, or just you and your partner, here are 5 ideas on how to make this Sunday a super date!...more

I see you talking the talk...

But I ain't feel you walking the walk. I have to say I am done and pretty much gone. Why is it that people need to take other people's power away in order to make themselves feel more powerful?? Why is it that it always takes me longer than is good to get that? I mean how many times do you take that kicked in the gut feeling before it's like...enough already? Well for me that day was yesterday. I woke up with some insight, with some clarity and just knowing that everything I have been pushing away, everything I was thinking was all in my head...actually wasn't. ...more

Cinderella didn’t need to take off her dress to get her Prince Charming. And neither do you.

My New Years Resolution for 2012....To stop rushing into the bedroom with guys!   NYE 2012 –the early hours of the new year caught me in a liplock with a handsome stranger. The passion of the moment could easily have resulted in the breaking of my resolution, but i had to advise him that his chances of getting lucky elapsed around 5 hours earlier!   After so many guys have come and gone in my life, I am now trying to analyse if there is something that i am doing ‘wrong’....more