The next step . . . commitment

Forty-year-old, handsome to a fault, intelligent, financially secure Mr. S. has been dating the beautiful, talented Ms. A for a year. After a few emails and a couple of texts we finally met to discuss his dating dilemma.  Our conversation went something like this (with his permission):  Read more Rachael R. Lorenz She Should have It

Dating in the Dark

(source) Dating in the Dark, a British adaptation of a Dutch television show has 3 men and 3 women meet on a group date in total darkness then pair off with their best match for 2 more one on one literally blind dates. I’m sure you see where this is going....more

Katie, Katie, Katie...

Today suddenly and out of nowhere he chanted your name 3 times in a row. It was the saddest and most beautiful thing I may have ever heard. He released your name into our awkward (& stubborn) surrounding air with a mix of ritualistic chanting type tones and a bit of the sing song rhythm that’s in a familiar nursery rhyme. It broke my heart before I could ask myself why. ...more

Will reason ever outweigh emotion??

I wonder why it’s so difficult for women to separate emotion from logic… even when it’s apparent the logics of the situation outweigh how you “feel” about things. That’s how men work, for the most part. We evaluate situations on what makes sense ala best case scenario for both of us and not what makes us “feel” the best. Because let’s be honest, feelings are an impulsive thing and not are they only that… they’re also something that only YOU can feel. So is the reasoning behind the inability to put reason above emotion the result of women being selfish creatures?...more

So you're saying as you got older you relied less on logical reasoning and chose emotional ...more

Women... Forgive and GET OVER IT!

Seriously? I’ve been on facebook recently like always, and I don’t know what’s in the water or if there’s a special kool-aid going around but I’ve seen quite a few posts from my female friends about relationships and how women shouldn’t be passive, how people get walked all over for forgiving too much, how the grass is greener on the other side and so on and so on... Well take a few steps with me. Step one. I’m deathly tired of hearing women bitch, complain, moan, feet stomp, and then change everything about themselves because one or two dudes did them wrong....more

I do think people should grieve in the after math of a bad break up and no one should get down ...more

Keep the Faith

If you were given a list of available children to adopt, which one would you pick? Would you look for the cutest, youngest, happiest little boy or girl? Or would you choose an older child... say around 15 or 16 years old?   My husband and I are currently going through this right now. Last year, we were chosen...yes, I said chosen... to adopt a child (or children). We have a natural son already but realized that adopting a child would make the most sense for us.   For anyone wondering, because I get asked this question a lot... Yes....more

Do you choose love or does love choose you?

Do you choose love or does love choose you?  I have little doubt that you've fallen for women with whom you couldn't imagine a future.  Chances are you stayed in those relationships far longer than you should have. And I'm thinking that the breakups were messy.  Read more Rachael R. Lorenz She Should have It

Having It All Together

  Recently I was talking to someone about marriage and relationships. This person was over forty years old but was not ready to get married because he did not “have it all together”. He felt marriage was not currently an option....more

15, Pregnant and Ecstatic? I'm As Hopeful As You Are Ecstatic

This is not a post about pro-life or pro-choice. This is a post about how confused I am. One of my students, who is a teen mom, advised me that a 15 year old classmate was pregnant and ecstatic about it. My student was not sure if she should talk to her and offer some words of support and encouragement. Before I could even respond, I had a million thoughts racing through my head as I recalled colic, late nights, no sleep, diapers, and doctor visits - not to mention, labor and delivery. Moreover, all of these memories stemmed from two planned pregnancies in my mid-thirties....more

I think you touched upon the challenge with which I am faced. How do we provide the emotional ...more

What Would Cleopatra Say?

What Would Cleopatra Say? It takes way more responsibility to enjoy your life than to complain about it. It takes way more responsibility to handle your pleasure than to be angry at other people because you are not getting yours. It takes way more responsibility to investigate your desires than to blame others because your dreams haven't come true. There is no such thing as failure when you pursue your inner desires. The only failure is compromise and mediocrity. - Regina Thomashauer (aka Mama Gena!) Good morning!...more

Good morning, YES, you are!! Thanks for the comment and props. Looking forward to reading your ...more