Letting Go of Control

I’m so confused. Am I supposed to be with you? Are we supposed to get back together? Are we supposed to live life together? What am I supposed to do?  Am I supposed to do anything? Should I try to do something? Anything? Take action instead of sit back? Or should I wait on you? I feel like I should wait…wait on you. It’s time for you to take action. Time for you to be a man. Time for you to pursue me. Time for me to sit back. Time for me to be the woman. Time for me to be pursued....more

11 Reasons Girls Like "Bad Boys" but Shouldn't.

Ladies, it's such a cliche...we love those bad boys! It might be fun for very short period of time, but the reality is - dating a bad boy sucks. So, Good Boys PAY ATTENTION! He's what we like in those illusive men......more

Finally a Decent Date or Was He?

It has been a rough 2 years. Since 2008 I broke up with a guy I really liked who was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and decided he wanted to get as much out of life as long as possible so long term relationships were no longer his focus. Then I was one of the early casualties of the recession and lost my job. After waiting two months for my unemployment to get straightened out, I walked into a chair at home and broke my toe. Needless to say with all these pressing issues dating and socializing slipped way down on my priority list....more

Facebook and Facing Fears

Contrary to what some may think mature adults can be computer literate too!  I like to pride myself on my willingness to not only learning new technology but embracing it.  I’ve been using computers since the 1980s when they were ugly boxes without any sex appeal.  Now they are slick, stylish, mobile and so much more than we could have imagined when the “weird kids” were taking computer science in high school.  I took my first computer class on a classic Mac at the YWCA in 1988.  It was an exercise in frustration but I didn’t let that deter me because it was obvious...more

ME 50?

 2010 began with the usual cautious optimism.  Suffering from a case of terminal unemployment I was already feeling used up and obsolete, but the real panic set in as my birthday approached.  Lets face it, birthdays are no longer the “best day of the year next to Christmas.”   Once you can legally drink and sign for an apartment its all down hill from there.  But this birthday was like no other I had experienced because this was that birthday.  Yes several months ago I turned the big five oh…oh no!  I knew all through...more

Best 4 Years of Your Life?!

Have you ever heard someone comment that high school was the best 4 years of their life? How did this ever get started?! For a long time, I thought I was the only person that disagreed with that because of everything I was dealing with. Eventually, I talked to other people who felt the same way....more

The lure of a married woman

What is it about married women that attracts single men?  Let's face it, it's a known fact that a beautiful woman with a ring on her finger has some men questioning their values.  Read more http://www.sheshouldhaveit.com  Rachael R. LorenzShe Should have Ithttp://www.sheshouldhaveit.com...more

Do You Want Me Now?

Some people just don't know when they are going too far. FACT - Desperation is never attractive! It never has been & it never will be. A couple of months ago I did a post on my ehhh 'virtual friend' Trevor. Please refer to Too Much Intensity if you need a refresher or are not familiar with our very lonely, clingy & needy Trevor....more

HELP!!! I love too hard...

I met him in August.  He was very sweet and genuine.  He has 2 ex-wives and 4 kids.  But I accept that because he takes care of his kids and appeared to be emotionally stabel...lol.  Four months later after meeting each other families, several dates and then a heartbreaking break up...I let him back in my life after he text me while in need of emotional support.  I love him, although I've never verbally expressed it, and we've been working on "us" without a title but lately I feel like Im giving more to a titleless relationship thats under a time restraint because.....more


About PattyPatty Chang Anker is not adventurous by nature. While other kids were out climbing trees and skinning knees, she was inside reading Laura Ingalls Wilder and memorizing show tunes. A GLEEk before her time. That is how she grew up never really learning how to ride a bike, do a handstand, or dive into a swimming pool. And why she started blogging Facing Forty Upside Down (www.upside-down-patty.blogspot.com) 3 days after turning 39....more