Who is my beholder?

We've all heard that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  Normally, I'm not all that concerned with how I look.  I've got a few extra pounds that I would really like to lose, mainly because I am too poor to buy bigger clothes right now.  Otherwise, I would not care! Most days I don't even wear make-up. I have a very low maintenance hairstyle.  I've never cared much what other people think of me.  I am who I am and that is how it's gonna be and if you don't like it, you don't have to!...more

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Trust Is a Must

Trusting your mate is essential in a relationship. In fact, I refuse to be in a relationship where trust is an issue because it only leads to bigger issues of jealousy, lack of commitment and insecurities. But recently, trust issues have snuck into my relationship without warning, without permission, without warrant. This unwelcome visitor has added tension to my relationship and has introduced doubt. This tension then has a way of resurfacing any time any problem or issue is introduced that looks anything close to our unwelcomed visitor. ...more


Does love last forever? According to my 100-year-old grandmother, it does. Her husband passed away 20 years ago, and yet she still had a lifetime with him. A lifetime filled with endless love, an abounding friendship and an assured mindset. Their love was unquestionable, which made it even more amazing. Their love lasted from life until death. “...until death do us part…” But to hear my grandmother tell it, their souls have still never parted. She calls him her lover, she kisses his picture everyday, she relives fond moments with him in her mind. She keeps his spirit alive in her heart....more

Letting the Man be "The Man"

Are men and women really that different? Sometimes it feels as if we are extremely different, yet other times it feels like we are eerily similar. And sometimes we are different, but not in traditional ways. Men sometimes take on the traditional “woman” role—more emotional, more sensitive, more affectionate; while women sometimes take on the traditional “man” role—less aware, less talkative, less affected. But just because men and women don’t always play their traditional roles, doesn’t mean either of them is wrong....more

The True Measure of Love

How do you measure love? Do you measure it by the number of times you say it? Do you measure it by the amount of nice things you do? Do you measure it by the amount of money you spend? Or is it immeasurable? Is it so abstract and undefined that you can’t put a number or quantity or percentage around it? I feel that you love me; therefore, it must be the case…...more


I love you. I love you always, but you don’t always see that. I think of you in the morning when I wake up and at night when I go to bed, but you don’t always think that. I know you and I know how I feel when I’m with you, but you don’t always know that. I understand you and your actions, but you don’t understand that....more

Communication Is Key...

You always hear that communication is the key to healthy relationships. In fact, you hear it so much that you start to dismiss it—it starts to become cliché. But no matter how overused “communication” may be as the cure for broken or unhealthy relationships, it really is necessary. ...more

Anything Goes... almost!

Dating websites and merry-go-rounds have a lot in common. It all has to do with going around in circles, reaching for the gold ring and coming up empty handed, but having a ball in the process. Take yesterday for example, I woke up dateless. It’s spring in Florida and a spectacular day; breezy blue sky, windows wide open, Pandora playing all my favorite tunes, cleaning rag in hand and my computer purring. Can a computer purr, you may wonder. Well, mine did yesterday. I received email after email, brief correspondences with at least five men and wound up with two dates!...more

Red Wrist Bracelets

I had this friend, a friend of a friend, something, and I shouldn't but I sat her in her chair and saw she couldn't get over something. She was trying to drink her orange juice, listening to the cars that were driving with their music up too loud next to her broken Plexiglas window, and starring at the Window’s Media Player for something good to finally play on XM radio, on Seattle KEXP....more