Debunking Myths about Dating

I'm updating my book The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. The new version will be called Dr. Romance's Guide to Dating in the Digital Age. The following article is excerpted from the new book. A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how other people think you should behave or things should happen) and myths (common beliefs which are not based on fact). Having such expectations and myths can shape your behavior and reactions in ways that create dating problems. Here we will examine the most prevalent of these myths....more

The Idea of Closure

We have all experienced this at one time or another in our lives. The heartbreak of a relationship that wasn't meant to be but in our hearts we really felt it was. A crush that we had really hoped would like us back and we find out they aren't interested. It is that crushing feeling that makes us human and brings out that vulernable side. Sometimes the relationship or crush was short and yet the powerful feels of rejection makes it seem like it was way more. After it all comes crashing down the questions begin to come to mind. Why did it not work out?...more

After 7 Years Of Loneliness, I Still Refuse to Settle for "Mr. Wrong"

How many kinds of lonely do you think exist in the world? I’ve never actually asked myself before…it just popped up right now because I suddenly Susan wanted to address how lonely I was last year before I decided to go back online....more
writergal2014 You're so welcome!  I've settled before when I was married and I won't be doing it ...more

Does a Gift Soften the Blow of a Cheating Mate?

Does a gift soften the blow of a cheating partner?It is common trend for high profile men (and men alike) to gift their lady with an expensive gift after a major blow up. Celebrities are best known for this, with celebrities like Gabrielle Union and Eudoxie receiving engagement rings and diamond bracelets after the news of a cheating mate hit the media. What these women have in common, is the fact that they were both given extravagant gifts following an infidelity. Were these gifts intended to pacify the women in their lives?...more

Trace's Adventures in Dating: The Dos & Don'ts of Creating an Online Dating Profile

If you've followed Cat and I on our dating adventures, you will know that both her and I have been on a roller coaster of dates. From Jake Gyllenhaal look-a-likes to men penning mouse themed novels, we have seen it all and brought you alone for the ride....more

A Tale Of An Exaggerated Cyber Boyfriend

I've never told anyone about you let alone tried to put us into context. I know you, I love you and I hold our relationship close to my heart but when I was asked "what do you love about him?", I almost hiccupped because I was caught off guard. It wasn’t until then that I realized that I don’t know a thing about you- I just think I do....more

Online Dating: Dealbreakers

Everybody’s different, but we all have some situations that are dealbreakers when meeting and evaluating a potential boyfriend or girlfriend in person after we’ve connected with him or her online....more

Sleeping with a Boyfriend: The Truth

After being in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend for a year, I couldn’t wait to sleep with him anytime I wanted. I don’t mean in that way either, but to actually sleep-sleep with him in the same bed every night. I couldn’t wait to snuggle. I couldn’t wait to have pillow talk. I couldn’t wait to fall asleep next to the person who meant the world to me....more

The Truth Behind..He's Just Not That Into You.

One thing that I have learned earning my degree in School Counseling is some of the funny conversations we have with students. I was talking to one of my classmates, a male who is in his early 20's while I am in my middle 20's.  We were talking about interviewing which than lead to conversations with students. ...more