I Haven't Always Done the Right Thing But I Have No Regrets: Here's Why

Not many people know this, but I’m a pretty big Broadway musical fan.  There are a lot of shows I haven’t seen, but I have some favorites and therefore have tons of their songs in my music library.  Nothing says ‘gangsta’ quite like rolling through the streets of Manhattan with the ‘Wicked’ soundtrack playing in your ears.  ...more

Compersion: A Polyamorous Principle That Can Strengthen Any Relationship

I vividly remember the first time I felt it.  My husband and I were in the backyard, lazing in the sun, sipping drinks as he described the previous evening. As he talked, his face looked brighter, his eyes clearer.  In a flash of déjà vu, I remembered that same vibrant and enraptured look from twenty-five years earlier when we first met. It was a sudden reemergence of his vitality that I hadn’t fully seen in our domestic nest for many years. But now in his detailed (and scintillating) descriptions, that fire in his eyes was beaming....more

My Future Ex-Husbands

Since getting divorced, I've been making a list of my future ex-husbands. I feel it's good to have goals and be prepared when opportunity strikes....more

HOW MEN PLAY WOMEN: The Game of the Religious Playa Revealed

I always tell people to beware of someone who wants you to set yourself on fire to keep them ...more

Love by July

“Bees can fly 12 miles without getting lost. Albatrosses, 25,000 miles. And flying insects, without eyes, have no trouble whatsoever finding their ‘soul mates.’ Imagine what I can do for you when you listen to the voice within.”  The Universe, from Notes from The Universe by Mike DooleyMy client Paul took a stand about 2 weeks ago. He set the goal that he would have love by his side by July 22nd....more

Nagging is the Leading Cause of Deafness in Men

It’s pretty common for a woman to feel like her man doesn’t listen to her.  I hear it a lot.  I hear it a lot because it happens a lot.  However, there’s a reason and in most cases it’s avoidable.  When a man feels like he’s being nagged he shuts it out.  You may not think you’re nagging, but he may feel like you are more often than you’d imagine.  It’s like his brain hits the mute button without him even knowing it....more

First Kiss for Ex-Virgin

Fourteen months ago I asked my husband of 11 years for a divorce. We sold our house, split up the money 50/50 with no fight - paid off our debt and each moved out 8 months ago. It took a while to get through the mediation process mostly due to our busy schedules. We finally got officially divorced 2 months ago. It was a long process, but for the most part it was easy. We didn't have much to fight over. It was as amicable as it could be I suppose. We had a fairy tale divorce. We are still friends. ...more

Dating for the Sake of Dating

I think this is something we all do at some point in our lives. We don’t want to be lonely so we just date. It’s not like we’re in love with the person or even overly attracted to them, but we want to date so we date them. It’s no big thing, right? I’m not sure that it isn’t a big thing for me.This is what I've done for the past two years. Ever since my ex and I broke up, I've been on a lot of first dates. A lot of those first dates never became second dates. Most of them were lackluster for lack of a better term. And with 90% of them, I never contacted the person again. ...more
Dating just to date is along the same plain as "loving for love sake."  Time is too precious to ...more

It Took a Herd of Cattle to Heal My Heart

 In the wake of a breakup, some change their appearance. Others find solace in extravagant shopping or a strong gin and tonic....more