It's That Simple

breaking up is hard to do.... via instant message

In moving forward in finding love I needed to look back at the relationship with the only person I loved, my first love, Woo.  In the years that Woo and i dated on and off and I like to think that's when I learned to protect my heart, but not guard it.  I mean things didn't always go smoothly. In those years, Woo had done everything from have sex with an ex girlfriend i specifically asked him not to, to showing up at my house in a different city as a surprise.  ...more

5 Rules for a Successful Date Night With Your Spouse

I used to be a pretty good “dater”, once upon a time. I mean, I’d show up looking stunning, make good conversation, provide my undivided attention, etc. So how is it that I can completely miss the mark on dates with my hubby?Several years ago, we decided to start a bi-weekly “date night”. It sounded like a great idea and certainly something we could get some excitement out of. However, those first few date nights were anything but exciting; they were really more like business meetings sometimes. Eventually (and unfortunately) those dates became a thing of the past....more
Our date nights are usually at home, but I might have us dress up for the next one and no talk ...more

What is a true successful relationship?

Lately, I got to thinking about relationships.......more

Eat the Cake!: 30-30 Somethings

Oh boy! If you've ever second guessed a life choice by over analyzing it, then you'll understand my delimma about dating a younger man - 10 years my junior. That decision prompted this post: Eat the Cake!: 30-30 Somethings....more

Here's Why It's "Less Writing, More Boobs", Girlfriends.

 This is the actual title of an article re: a survey done by Chemistry.com about what men want to see in a woman’s profile.  Seriously, where do we live? Hooterville?I personally don’t have any more boobs… I barely have boobs period…and my "about me" goes on and on AND on…but I’ve managed to meet some pretty great guys who didn’t need glasses ( to see my little boobs ) and could read ( my novel length profile ) so I’m thinking: score for me!...more

Undying Love

Ozzfest 1999 June 3, 1999 East Troy Wisconsin Alpine Valley ...more

Dear Dr. Romance: He isn't shy about holding hands with a black girl

Dear Dr. Romance:I started dating a man 2 years younger than me, who is from another country. I thought he was very sweet and gentlemanly and of course I'm really attracted to him, and he eventually asked me on a date. We've had several dates, and he's very considerate, very discreet at work, pays for everything, drives me, walks me to my door, opens doors for me. He isn't shy about holding hands in public with a black girl....more

Dr. Romance on The Perks of Dating a Divorced Person

Dr. Romance asks:  Should you date someone who is divorced?  Does it mean the person can't commit or trashes relaitonships?It's possible that those things are true, but let's look on the positive side.  What are the perks of people who have already been through the mill?1. Divorced people are no longer living in fantasy land. A person who’s divorced may have made some istakes, but he or she’s usually got a more realistic picture of what it will take to have a successful relationship....more
In my experience of dating divorced men, your #'s 1,2 & 3 don't apply.  They are now dating via ...more

Lover boy vet

I've been divorced since Gerald Ford was president.Oh, I've had relationships over the years, but have avoided serious emotional involvements.Sorry, that topic is between me and my therapist.It's been a number of years since I've even dated; family responsibilities, work, and some long-term health issues have kept me tired and frankly just not interested in l-o-v-e....more