Toxic Relationships and Why You Should Leave

I am not ashamed to say that I have been in two relationships in my lifetime that were abusive. The first relationship didn’t last very long, but the second one lasted an entire year. The second relationship was an emotional roller coaster I tell you! I endured emotional abuse....more
I was married to someone who over the course of our twenty year marriage became an emotional ...more

AN Open Letter To EVERY Guy on the Planet:

Dear Every Guy on The Planet:We women know that it’s not easy for you when it comes to dealing with us and relationships.I will admit, us women can be annoying sometimes. We nag the death out of you to do things. We demand that you communicate to us how you are feeling and we also expect you to read our minds and body language all the time. Whew! That must be tiring! It is not easy being a man when it comes to dealing with us women, but a shout out to those who do it right....more

Why you should join Match.com today

I was roughly 25 years old and found out my high school boyfriend and fiancé was cheating on me with a friend. I was lost and thought I would be alone forever. I was lucky enough to have an amazing sister that helped me through this hard time. After a few months and a quick rebound fling, she convinced me to join Match.com.  I tend to be pretty introverted and work strange hour,  so meeting people was difficult for me. The website allowed me to connect with guys I would likely have never even met. ...more

Warning: Possibility of False Intimacy Ahead.

The definition of intimacy is: close or warm friendship or understanding; personal relationship. Therefore, the definition of “false intimacy” may be taken as the illusion thereof…While I’ve been trying to write these blog posts chronologically re: dating, sometimes life loops back and what I experienced just last night gave me the perfect next topic that follows “messaging” and “loneliness”....more

My Hair Is a Story. I Kept the Part About the Girl with a Backbone.

Somewhere around 2009, I decided to grow my hair out. To be 100% honest, as I always am on this blog, I decided to grow my hair because I thought I would be getting married in the next few years. Boy, did I miss the mark on that one (but found my Mark three years later ... wow, that was a cheesy pun)....more
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It Turns Out Joel the Interior Designer Wasn’t An Interior Designer OR Named Joel

Let’s take a moment to discuss pathological liars. I have already ranted about my ex-boyfriend, Joey, making up an entire vacation so that he didn’t have to hang out with me. And now you’ll find out about Joel…And, by the way, I feel okay using that name — because it’s technically not his name and I don’t think you can get angry at someone for using your real fake name.Joel, a very fashionable, good looking guy whom I met in a bar,  introduced himself as an Interior Designer.  I was impressed with that (never having met an interior designer before). We spoke for a few minutes near the coat check, and exchanged numbers....more

Date Idea: Trapeze Lesson

Two weekends ago, Stephen and I took a trapeze lesson.I had signed us up earlier this year - a $40 Groupon, so why not?Months passed, and we finally found ourselves at the the lake front starring at a steep ladder, a couple swinging bars, and a catching net.We laughed. What the hell are we doing? Yet we parked the car....more

Taste in Men: 30:30 Somethings

When we discuss the beauty of relationships, we typically describe them in terms of good or bad. But as a woman who’s dated many men and married none, how about considering them in the range of taste buds? That's what I ponder in this Taste in Men post....more

Online Dating Horror Story #3: Thunder and Lightning

Years ago, I met a man from an online dating site at a fast-food restaurant for a Coke. It turned out to be me listening to an hour-and-a-half monologue. (That happens a lot and I’m too polite — or dumb — to just get up and leave....more