Infidelity and Hoarding

Countless books have been written about it.  Radio talk show hosts shame us about it every day.  Life coaches challenge us to implement it.  “Let the man chase you!”  They say....more

For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Celibacy When Tasting the Rainbow Wasn’t Enough

I am an attractive black woman and I have been celibate for about two years now.  Why do you ask?  I got tired of wasting my pretty on liars and losers…plain and simple.  I understand that not everyone is ready for celibacy as a lifestyle, but for me it has been most empowering.  I have to admit that for me it wasn’t as hard of a decision as it might be for others, as ...more
I give this post a thumbs up!! Eventhough I am married and have been for almost 14 years I have ...more

Stuck Inside the Box

I was accompanying my parents in a gathering with their friends, whom I knew since middle school. The first thing one of their friends said to me was “Wow, your hair is so short now. Just like a boy. Why don’t you keep your long hair?” She continues, “Oh you don’t usually wear a dress right? Maybe should start to wear dresses more often!” As the conversation continues, “You are doing a masters’ degree? That’s great! Though it’s more important to find a good man who can provide for you.” For a second, I thought I was in 1953....more

Netflix, We're Going To Have To Stop Seeing Each Other For A While. It's Not You, It's Me...

 Hey, Netflix. How are you?Miss you, boo....more

Prince Charming Doesn't Exist

Some people fall in love at a coffee shop, their eyes meeting and instantaneously telling them that they have found their match. Others meet while passing each other on the street or at the library. Love reveals itself at the mall, at work, in the produce aisle of a grocery store. It can come all at once, or it can languidly reveal itself between mutual friends. Love can transpire between two acquaintances thrown together by mutual friends or a dating website. It can come when we are young, when we are old, or anytime in between....more

Rosie oh Rosie Project

It has been sitting in my pile of books for some time now, don't ask why I didn't get to it earlier, because you probably already know some of the reasons. The least of which is, I don't like reading a book while it's being hooted and tooted...more

Hey! Are You Awake?

2:00AMPhone Rings.....Man: "Hey! Are you awake"?Woman: "No, I'm flying a rocket ship".Man: "What are you up to"?...more
I wouldn't have expected any other type of response from a respectful woman. Of course I'm ...more

Book Review: The Hysterics by Kristen Hope Mazzola

I had never read a series based on music or musicians prior to reading this book. I’m kicking myself in the ass for it now. I thoroughly enjoyed this book beginning to end. My only complaint is that it was too short, I wanted to keep reading and reading about Fallon and Dane forever!...more

Dear Men: Ignoring You Does Not Make Me a Bitch

Let’s start with an anecdote about the time I gave out my number to a guy when I didn’t actually want to.It was last Monday. I walked into a Starbucks, and a man behind me in line asked if I had any suggestions on what he should order. I answered his question. Then, I grabbed my coffee and left to meet a friend....more

"That's Just My Baby's Dad"