Teach Your Children Well

The heat reflects off the black pavement and I am sweating (OK, maybe I’m glowing) on a warm day at the Alameda County Fair. I’ve visited all my favorite exhibitions, like the photography and art exhibit (amazing display, as always), the flower/garden exhibit, the big and small animals (love the rabbits), and the Billy Mays lookalikes.  I missed my favorite this year, the pig races. I also had to make a quick stop to my husband’s model train exhibit his club has every year. Walking past a Mom and her two daughters, one carrying a blow-up Scooby-Doo (I love Scooby-Doo), and the other a blow up unicorn. I heard Mom say to the girls, “Thank you for listening to me today.” I almost stopped in my tracks. Was I hearing correctly?

I was impressed by this Mom’s statement because it showed respect for her daughters and it was something that I promote parents to do. Kids are smart and they respond to this kind of interaction. They learn that if they behave socially appropriately they get rewarded with praise (and maybe a toy). This builds self-esteem and confidence in the children, and you don’t have to constantly yell at them to behave, which decreases your stress (what a concept). Then there’s the added benefit of reinforcing there desired behavior, which continues to give and give. Sounds like a good plan, right? I wish I had been treated that way when I was younger, but in that day, it just wasn’t done.

What about you? Do you wish you had learned this powerful motivational technique when you were a child? Or were you taught this method I mention above where you were encouraged, praised, and motivated to behave like a well-mannered child? Were you encouraged to build your self-esteem and confidence?

What do you want to teach your children well, no matter what your parents taught you?

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