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The Old Switcharoo: Teens and Partying

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We’ve been there and done that. By which I mean that we’ve written a few CHAPTERS in the book of “Teen Party Sneakiness.”

And yet we still get duped.

"I am staying at Jackie's house for the night, mom."

"I am staying at Katy's house for the night, mom."

At about 11:00 pm, I received a very interesting call from Jackie's mom. "Can I talk with Jackie for a minute, please?" she asked.

"Certainly, Mary, she is at your house where MY daughter is spending the night."

That was about the point where all hell broke loose.

Joe, my husband, remembered that our daughter had asked earlier in the week if she could go camping with her boyfriend and a bunch of friends up on Smith-Jones Mountain. He had said he would talk with me and get back to her. It appeared she didn’t wait for the answer.

Then, it ALL fell into place.

About 12:15 am, and after talking with the other family involved several times, we decided to call the boyfriend's parents.

I woke them out of a dead sleep and asked where their son was. Of course, he was camping at Smith-Jones Mountain.

And that was RIGHT where we went. ALL of us.

What we found was that this was tent camping, and no one had cell phone reception, so we made the bold decision to go up on this large, wilderness-filled mountain to find them.

There were camp trails/roads in this very remote location about 30 minutes from our town, but no houses or civilization. We caravaned up the mountain and, with the help of Jackie's older brother who had done his fair share of camping up on the mountain, we thankfully did not get lost.

As we are searched, more than one car passed us with loaded with young kids with white painted faces -- there had been a high school football game that night. That comforted us, as we knew we were on the right track.

It was about 1:30 am.

Finally, after driving around for an hour, we spotted a tiny campfire way down the side of the mountain and a huge bunch of cars. We stopped and saw the boyfriend's car. Eureka!

The four of us start heading down the mountain on foot (now about 2:15 am). Joe was stopping kids and asking them if they had seen our daughter or the boyfriend.

One very drunk high school student happily said to follow him. He led us down the mountain, though thick wilderness, over fallen trees and across a creek. The creek had a log across it that we had to balance upon as the sweet young man turned to Joe and said, "Careful, Old Dude."

Upon reaching the fire -- which, by the way was a roaring bonfire that only looked like a nice, tiny campfire from the far distance where we parked our car -- Joe approached a young girl with a beer in her hand and asked if she knew where the boyfriend was.

Her comment, in a very high-pitched, holy-hell kind of voice, "Who are you?"

She pointed to a tent and went to the outside of it. It was full of kids that were very loud and laughing, and Joe says, “KATY??!!?!"

The boyfriend's voice was the first voice we heard, "That is Mr. SMYTHE!!!"

Katy got out of the tent and said to us, "You don't need to be pissed."

Ha! We marched her and her friend all the way up the side of the mountain and to the waiting cars. You can imagine just how coordinated they were at fording the stream after several beers.

Then came the longest ride home on record.

Besides the lessons learned that night by father, mother and daughter, another was learned a few days later.

Joe was at work when a man came in to buy something. He began by introducing himself to Joe, and asked about Katy and the night on the mountain.

Confused, Joe asked who he was. He was the father of one of the boys who was in the tent that night.

He added that he knows all about the story because "The Legend of Old Dude" was all over town.

The moral? Remember back to your old tricks -- odds are great that your kids will be using them, as well.

Photo Credit: Sandy Zieba.

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mandycat 5 pts

Condolences on a long and stressful night. Congratulations on being the kind of parent who cares enough to go through all that. I remember some neighbors telling me about tracking down their daughter by phone when she didn't return from a party at a friend's house at the agreed upon time. The party-giver's parents were sound asleep while the party was going on outside in their pool house. Not only were the parents unconcerned about the unchaperoned party raging on, out of sight and sound, they were furious at my neighbors for waking them up!

HeidiChick 5 pts

So sorry you had to go through that! What a late night too.
I was never 'let out' without my parents calling where I was going. I tried one time when it was close by, but my mom called and asked to speak to a parent. None there. I was home again that night and I was in trouble for trying.
And my parents? NEVER left us alone for an evening or an entire night -- they knew.
I was always AMAZED how much every other kid in my entire high school got out to huge parties or even overnights with boyfriends.
Now I go to reunions for HS and it is weird everyone has all these shared partying experiences....except me. But I'm ok with it. I got through teenage years alive and without drug issues.
And I have the shared party experiences with my college friends : )

KMayer 5 pts

In our town, bonfires are code for blowjobs and beer. Yeah it happens, but we don't have to make it easy for them. And they need to know we've been there, done that. Not only our own kids, but the kids whose parents unfortunately think such behavior is normal and acceptable. Yes, it's normal, but not acceptable in my family. Or yours.

Kathykate (p/t copywriter, f/t mom)

Diary of a Return-to-Work Mom ( http://www.returntoworkmom.com/ )

JennaHatfield 10 pts

I only went to one party of that nature in high school. (I was kind of uncool.) And yes, I used the I'm sleeping at so-and-so's house. My mom called so-and-so's house. But the party? Was two doors down from so-and-so's house. So she just walked down to get me, I called my mom back from so-and-so's house. Hung out for awhile to make sure she wasn't calling back. And went back to the party.

And had such guilt that I never did it again. ;)

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and newspaper photographer.