The Teen Years, Enter at Your Own Risk.
by Stevenbrycesmom

Thing 1 has made a lot of changes over this past year.  He is slowly growing out of being a boy and turning into a young man.  Most of these changes I have embraced with open arms, others I shudder at.

Having a child that is going to be a, shock gasp, TEENAGER in a few short months has got my nerves on edge.  I see him and his friends interacting now and it is a whole different ballgame than it used to be.  Girls are now heavily involved.  They were involved before but then it was "ugh yuck girls".  Now it is "ohhhh girls".  Can you see why I am stressing? The IM conversations alone show a glimmer of coming of age.

I still see the innocence in them.  I still see the apprehension in their words and their motions.  The not being sure of themselves is still there along with itching to breakout of their shell and give this thing a try. I know that it is all a part of growing up but it still scares me and I am sure it scares them as well.

I am sure we will spend the next few months both growing and learning together.  My son growing and learning how to be a teenager and me growing and learning how to be a parent of a teenage.  I sure hope that we are ready.

Submitted by Stevenbrycesmom (view blog) on Sat, 05/24/2008 - 09:14

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Jess Mom to Thing 1 and

Jess Mom to Thing 1 and Thing 2 CEO of Knight INC.

Submitted by Stevenbrycesmom on Sat, 05/24/2008 - 06:14
 

Times they are a changing...

As the mother of a 21 year old I can relate.  I remember when my son was turning into a teenager and how I felt.  I was missing all the times we would spend together and how he would want to spend more time with his friends and no time with Mom.  But his growing up was the joy of my life and you will ajust.  Just enjoy this time it goes by so fast.

Mara

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Submitted by mara on Sat, 05/24/2008 - 06:33
 

rofl

The teen years can be non-eventful, or as my sister found out, a daily struggle for every inch of stress free space.

My eldest was totally stress free; the worst we experienced was when we went on a long weekend in Quebec City. She convinced us (at 16) she could stay at home with her friend (who lived a few houses down.) We agreed, given we had lots of neighbours there we well knew, and of course her friend's mom was home.

As we returned home at the end of the weekend, and just after crossing the border into the US, a call came. And that ended our happy mood.

Um... such and such (I forget his name now) stayed over. It seems her grandmother showed up unexpectedly and found that this different arrangement was in place. Said grandmother gave her a choice: call your parents and tell them - or I will.

And so she tells us. I think phrases like 'grounded for the rest of your life' were tossed out. We might even have pondered bringing back some form of the stocks on the common, I don't know. But in hindsight, it was her worst moment - this of someone who owned her own home at 19, a scant 3 years later. Now... I can laugh. ;-)

We've a 16 year old now, and I always harboured something inside that she would be a bit more adventurous, but so far, so good - though I'm now divorced and not the primary custodial parent. Which is a subject I should rant about some time, not in terms of how it impacts me, but rather on how I can compliment, and not hinder, my ex as primary custodial parent.

I'll say it again, because it is worth mentioning... if you have a daughter, read Reviving Ophelia - before her teen years.

 

nelle

Submitted by nelle2nelle on Sat, 05/24/2008 - 06:53
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