Sign of the Times? Texting During Sex
By Deb Rox on May 06, 2010
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When you read a text, a Twitter or a Facebook status update, do you ever wonder what else the sender is doing? Hopefully she's not driving, though maybe you picture her doing one of the other things people are known to do while texting: walking a treadmill, sipping a latte in a coffee shop, or banging her husband like a wild orangutan in heat.
It's true. A report released by Retreve Gadgetology revealed that one in 10 people under 25 have answered a text during sex. Advertising Age reports:
The older 25-plus age group was only half as tolerant to electronic interruptions -- 6% could be bothered during sex; 17% during a meeting; 27% during a meal; and 12% in the bathroom. But that's still a lot of people of all ages engaging in social media anywhere and anytime. While not that many people actively engage in social media during sex, they do in bed. Retrevo found that almost half of social-media users check in via phone while lying in bed. About 48% of those polled said they check or update Facebook or Twitter after they've gotten into bed at night and/or before they get out of bed in the morning.
The study does not say what type of texts people are sending while having sex, though. Are they lifestreaming: Gettin freeky but Travis isnt rockin my sox. Any 1 up 4 pancakes soon? Or is the sex separate from the text: RT Help #flood2010 w/ $10 donation by texting Redcross to 90999.
Perhaps a hashtag disclosure system is needed to be fair to the recipients of your texts and Tweets. A simple #toilet, #gettinglaid, #gynexam would do. Though perhaps ignorance is bliss, and we don't want to know the context of our social media correspondence. I do hope hand sanitizer is used before people text me, but maybe I'm alone in that.
I admit that I check my e-mail and text streams from bed. I think of it as co-sleeping with my iPhone baby. But not during sex, no, not ever. That would feel like cheating on the intimacy of the act, including cheating myself out of an undistracted experience. I suppose like Jimmy Carter, though, I may have committed social media adultery in my mind once or twice by COMPOSING a message to be texted later, but that's different. Right?
Contributing Editor Deb Rox blogs like a freaking butterfly, stings like a Tweet, and has two pieces of advice for you if your lover reaches for her Blackberry during sex. 1. Ask her consent to nip that bad behavior with handcuffs. 2. Step up your game, stat. Sometimes old school is best.