Thank You Notes: Social Must or Time Suck Bust?
By Guilt Goddess on September 22, 2010
Now that Little Dude's birthday has come and gone, and he's enjoying all the new toys he received as gifts, I'm left with only one last thing to do.
Of course I bought the thank you notes that matched the birthday invitations I used. At the party, I even passed around a spreadsheet I made for each guest to write down his or her address in order to mail out the thank-yous. (Since Little Dude changed schools, I need to mail the notes.)
Have I actually written the notes yet? No.
Am I the least bit motivated to write the notes? No.
I really don't know what my hang up with this is. I feel like I just HAVE to send thank-yous. It's the only polite thing to do. But I also hate having to do it.
A couple of the parents at Little Dude's party commented, as they wrote down their addresses for me, that they had not sent out thank-yous for their kids' birthday parties earlier in the year. That got me thinking:
1) I hadn't even noticed or remembered whether or not these people had sent thank you notes.
2) Further, I didn't really care whether they had sent thank you notes.
3) So why should I worry so much about sending out thank you notes?
Is sending written thank you notes an outdated social custom? In today's high-speed, technological world, do people still expect written thank you notes? I mean, really, if you're going to hate me just because I didn't write a damn thank you note for a plastic helicopter that is currently in a million pieces all over my living room floor, then I don't need to be your friend that badly.
I thank you all for coming to Little Dude's birthday party. I really do. Little Dude thanks you, and he thanks you for the gifts. Each of your kids went home with a goodie bag as a 'thanks for coming' gift. Do I really have to still write thank you notes? (Which, essentially, are notes to thank the parents for stopping by Target on their way to the party, aren't they?)
So maybe I just won't do them. Maybe I'll wait until nex year, or the year after, when Little Dude is big enough to understand the concept a bit more and can help write the notes and sign his name. Because, right now, writing them myself would primarily be an exercise in alleviating my own guilt if I didn't write the notes.
That's it. I'm taking a stand. I'm not writing thank you notes this year.
Oh, who am I kidding? Of course I'll write the thank you notes. I made an address spreadsheet for goodness sake. I would be horribly guilty if I didn't do it. It's like a chain letter -- I don't want to see what will happen if I don't send out seven copies right away. But I can still think it's kinda silly, right?
Where do you stand on the great thank you debate? People deserve gratitude when they give -- that goes without saying. But are written thank you notes for things like birthday or Christmas gifts truly necessary or an outdated social custom?
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